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April 2nd, 2012, 02:05 PM
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How often do you get it? What do you do?
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April 2nd, 2012, 02:11 PM
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DH and I rarely get 1:1 time, but I hope that will change with Juliana sleeping better.

When she was sleeping poorly, I'd go to bed at the same time as her (around 9 pm) most of the time. I'd try to take a nap with her one day on the weekend and spend the other day with DH so we could DTD, or sometimes we'd DTD on a Friday or Saturday night if I wasn't exhausted and she went to bed reasonably early.

The last time we spent more than an hour, just the two of us, was when we went on vacation in November. We did a few excursions where were were gone for 6 or 7 hours and my mom watched Juliana. I was a little bit uncomfortable at the time (Juliana was 15 months old) but mostly I had a lot of fun and reconnected with DH.

My mom is going to be staying with us for 2 months this summer, and I hope to get in 3 or 4 dates. Juliana is almost 2 so, I'm starting to feel more comfortable leaving her, especially with family. I still won't leave her overnight any time soon, but I know DH wants a romantic getaway in the next couple of years. We'll see.

This probably sounds like a lame "date", but DH and I used to work out together a couple of times per week. I miss that. I wish Juliana would go to the gym childcare but I can't leave her to CIO there. I'm sure my mom will help watch her some this summer and then we'll try again when my mom goes back. By then she'll be 2 and hopefully brave enough to stay. We also have started doing family runs with the 3 of us plus the dog, and that is pretty fun.
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April 2nd, 2012, 02:24 PM
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uh, never ever ever.
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April 2nd, 2012, 02:34 PM
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We get some, not as much as I'd like. It's usually at bedtime and we sit in bed and talk awhile.
We go on walks with the kids too, which is sort of one on one since the kids are just hanging in the stroller.
When he's working full time though I get almost zero time with him, which is really hard on me.
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April 2nd, 2012, 04:49 PM
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Everynight. We watch a movie or TV show (currently watching LOST on Netflix and Downtown Abby). We have some wine, snuggle, fool around, etc.
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April 2nd, 2012, 07:48 PM
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We used to get one on one time at night after DS was asleep, but DH's schedule changed recently and we haven't figured out what our new family schedule will be based on DH's work changes. We'll just have to wait to see how things go over time. DH's job right now is more important than us having one on one time. Him being prepared at work is a matter of life or death, so I expect I'll see very little of him awake over the next few months.
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April 2nd, 2012, 08:19 PM
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Its hard. Nick works from 7pm to 7am then serves papers when he gets off at 7am.. comes home and sleeps til next shift. We really dont see eachother during the week except for an hour or two before he leaves for work. That time is for him and Nicholas.

Weekends we cuddle, watch tv, eat dinner, etc. Nothing special. We've been trying to get out to the range when the weather is nice.
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April 2nd, 2012, 09:39 PM
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We get to go out pretty regularly. We have a date twice a week while my mom looks after DS. Just today we went out to see The hunger games. DS isn't a into movies, or at least not "hollywood" movies, so he was just humoring me lol. Usually we go out for drinks and/or a meal. The weather is getting nicer so we will probably go for a hike next week.
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April 3rd, 2012, 06:30 AM
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Not often enough, and when we do it is not quality time. We get alone time in the evening after Avery has gone to sleep, but that is only if she has gone down well that night. Some nights we spend all evening trying to put her to sleep. When we do get time, it is just 30minutes to 1 hour before she wakes again. And our "alone" time generally consists of him watching TV and me on the computer! Need to work on it.
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April 3rd, 2012, 12:07 PM
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Never. We both get pretty bad anxiety if Evelyn's not with us. We do stay up and talk after she's gone to sleep but she's still right next to us in bed so I don't know if that counts.
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April 4th, 2012, 05:00 AM
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Every night, sort of.
DD is in bed at somewhere between 8 and 9pm and SO and I will usually do our thing (he will play a game or watch a show, I'll watch a show on netflix on my laptop) but we used to sit and watch a show together. Then we chat before we fall asleep.
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