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I feel like such a bad mama tonight. Here's the story (it's long - sorry!)
Tomorrow is the last day for my daughter's favorite preschool teacher. The kids are having a little party for her and I organized a gift for her from the room parents. They told the kids this past Tuesday that Miss J (the teacher) was going to a different school. However, the way they phrased it, I'm not sure the kids understood. For example, they told the kids that Miss J was going to go to a new school to teach those kids to listen just as well as the kids in my daughter's class.
When my daughter and I went to the store to pick up Miss J's gift, DD asked why we were getting her a gift. I immediately knew that she didn't realize she wasn't going to be there anymore. So I told her very softly that we were buying Miss J a gift because she wasn't going to be at her school anymore. DD asked immediately "But will she come back on Monday?" And I had to tell her that she wasn't going to come back to school anymore.
DD broke down in sobs!!! She loves Miss J very much and she has been a wonderful teacher to DD. Ugh. I feel like such a bad mama for making her realize that Miss J won't be there anymore but I didn't want Monday to roll around and have DD ask where she was and then be sad she didn't say good-bye.
I just hate being the one who tells my daughter something that makes her cry. Of course, being pregnant didn't help either because then I started to cry too. We were two blubbering messes in a gray Toyota Corolla today.
So sorry! I do you think you did the right thing, though. If she had to wait until Monday to find out, I bet she would have been a blubbering mess at school, and then you wouldn't have been able to comfort her.
It's tough when kids get attached to someone who leaves. Our nanny of more than a year just had her last day and Juliana is already asking for "Bu Bu". It's so sad.
One of DD's teachers who had been at the preschool for 10 years left in December and they had a party, etc and all the kids were ok with it (but there are 5 or 6 other teachers) and DD was ok with it as she had only been there 5 months and attached to two others. I believe he has come back to visit a few times, but I was very sad, because he made the best lunches for the kids!