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I posted a while back about planning for a vacation when Juliana is 3.5, which would be going away for 2.5-3 weeks. I briefly entertained the possibility of leaving her behind with her grandparents, but I decided there's no way. We're planning to bring her with us even though it will add thousands of dollars to the cost.
3-4 days is a different story, but I definitely would not do that now and I can't really see myself wanting to do that in another year. I do enjoy getting a break from her every now and then, but one day would be plenty. DH and I might try for one night away after she is 3, but we'll be sure to be somewhere that's within an hour or so away just in case anything happens.
Eh, not to Vegas because I have already been there and it's not really something I need to do twice. But if I had never been, yes, I *could* leave Liam for 3-4 days with my mom to go. Possibly not if he was nursing, because I would be concerned about him really be thrown thru a loop to be without it for a few days. But if he was as he is now (2.5) and not nursing...I could do it. And could potentially enjoy it because I would know he was having a blast with my parents and adjusting really quite fine. I know he can fare well without me for a couple days (he was fine when I had Kieran). If it were something I really wanted to do, I would do it. Sure, I would miss him, but I would call each day.
No, I couldn't go for that long. I would probably be fine for a quick overnight trip, and DS would probably be fine too, but I wouldn't want to be gone any longer than that. I actually remember the first time my mom and dad left me to take a trip- they took my brother skiing and left me with my grandparents for 2 nights. I think I was 3 at the time. I missed my mom so much, but I was basically fine.
Imagining it was a place I wanted to see, I would bring the baby too, if I was still nursing. We are flying cross country for the long weekend to go to my friends' wedding in October and bringing M with us. (I did make sure that preverbal toddlers with a propensity for mayhem were welcome, luckily they are having a very informal wedding and said she was invited too lol)
Whoops! I guess I'm a bad mama! My mom watched DD for 6 days when she was 2.5 while DH and I went to Bonnaroo. She watched her last year (when DD was 3.5) as well. I completely trust my mom and I had a much harder time being away from DD than she had being away from me! I called her about five times a day! She absolutely adores my mom and loves to spend time with her.
Whoops! I guess I'm a bad mama! My mom watched DD for 6 days when she was 2.5 while DH and I went to Bonnaroo. She watched her last year (when DD was 3.5) as well. I completely trust my mom and I had a much harder time being away from DD than she had being away from me! I called her about five times a day! She absolutely adores my mom and loves to spend time with her.
If I had someone I trusted a lot I think I would be more than willing. That doesn't make you a bad mama at all.
Right now I feel like I wouldn't but I also don't know what it's like to have a 2 year old yet so I can't for sure say. The only person I would feel comfortable leaving her with would be DH and if I were going on a trip I'd surely want him to come too We're not the Vegas type either but I still want to see everything this world has to offer, at least once.
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Whoops! I guess I'm a bad mama! My mom watched DD for 6 days when she was 2.5 while DH and I went to Bonnaroo. She watched her last year (when DD was 3.5) as well. I completely trust my mom and I had a much harder time being away from DD than she had being away from me! I called her about five times a day! She absolutely adores my mom and loves to spend time with her.
I don't think that makes you a bad mom at all! Sometimes I think it's good for kids to have a few days away from parents with another trusted adult, especially if it comes down to either that or having a helicopter mom. I just don't know if I could do that at 2...I feel like I'm dangerously close to being a helicopter mom, something I'm trying to work on.
Whoops! I guess I'm a bad mama! My mom watched DD for 6 days when she was 2.5 while DH and I went to Bonnaroo. She watched her last year (when DD was 3.5) as well. I completely trust my mom and I had a much harder time being away from DD than she had being away from me! I called her about five times a day! She absolutely adores my mom and loves to spend time with her.
i do not think you are bad, but i could not have pumped for 6 days! that would drive me bonkers. we also do not have any close relatives.
It was really nice to have some adult time with DH! We moved halfway across the U.S. from my family when DD was about 6 months old, so we never do anything just by ourselves. We've left her with a baby-sitter once, and that was well after she was 3 and it was only when she was asleep.
I think Vegas would be fun but drunk, moronic people drive me batty so I probably wouldn't fare very well there!
When we were on vacation, there was a woman and her husband there who had a 6-month old back home.......they were gone for a week, and she was pumping the whole time to keep her supply up. I couldn't leave a baby that young overnight, let alone for a week!
I'm pretty sure I couldn't leave my DD for a week. I have a hard enough time when she overnights at my parent's house, and I know she is in great hands there. I just wouldn't enjoy my vacation without my kids when they are little. I've got lots and lots of time for vacays away with my hubster when they are grown!
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When Katelynn was about 5 months old I went to visit Kyle for a week in HI. She was formula fed at that point and I was going through a lot of issues. Kyle was on deployment and I had not seen him in 6 months. I was gone for 5 days it was a much needed break that I needed to be the mom I wanted to be. I dont think I could have done it if I was nursing though. And I would only do a few days after weaning now and only with my parents I would not trust anyone else. I went to Vegas 2 Augusts ago for a week for a bachlorette party, the kids were with their dad though and it was so nice to unwind with great friends I had known since Jr high.
I'm not a Vegas fan either and I'd never go on an actual vacation without my kids. (no judgment. just not something I could do.)
I did leave Mercy with her Godparents for a very short weekend (left late Friday afternoon, came home first thing Sunday morning) when she was about 8 months because dh and I were in a friends wedding. I wanted sooooo badly to take her with us and they said we could have but I didn't think she was ready for crowds of people yet and I thought she would be safer at home. I pumped the whole time and I could not wait for the wedding to be over so I could get home to her! I haven't left her since except for when I was in the hospital when Nathaniel was born. I've never left him overnight.
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I left Claire with my Mom and sister for 3 nights when she was 18 months old so I could go see my fertility doc and do an embryo transfer. I trust them 1000% and Claire did great. I was stressed out about leaving her, but there is no way I could have taken her with me, and to be honest it was a refreshing break to have a little time to myself. I came back a refreshed, happier, more relaxed Mama...and Claire gets a brother and sister in a few months
I think it depends on the kid, though. Claire doesn't freak out around strange places/people and she's very laid-back. If I had any doubts that she'd be okay without me, I wouldn't have done it.
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I think it depends on the kid, though. Claire doesn't freak out around strange places/people and she's very laid-back. If I had any doubts that she'd be okay without me, I wouldn't have done it.
Very good point. Juliana freaks out if she wakes up in the morning and I'm not there within 5 seconds. If Juliana were more like Claire, I would probably consider leaving her with my parents.
Agreed! DD is a very relaxed, anything-goes sort of girl. In fact, I often tell my husband that we don't know how good we've got it! Now watch, baby #2 will be the complete opposite!
