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February 15th, 2013, 08:46 AM
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night time parenting?
food struggles?
breastfeeding?
baby wearing?
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February 15th, 2013, 08:57 AM
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Gentle Discipline. It's not something I've seen before, so it's like learning a foreign language.
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February 15th, 2013, 09:31 AM
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Night time is the only "issue" I have. Other then that, everything else goes very well.
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February 15th, 2013, 09:59 AM
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At first it was gentle discipline. I was raised in a very traditional home, so it was hard at first. Now I can't imagine doing it any other way.

My current struggle is not feeling like I can be physically close with all my kids as much as I want. I babywear and bedshare, but I can only do that with one baby at a time. I'm sure Claire would like more snuggles than she gets. I always feel physically stretched very thin.
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February 15th, 2013, 11:11 AM
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At this point, because it is my current challenge, definitely gentle discipline. I lose my temper sometimes and yell sometimes. I figured out though that my worst times of the day are late morning and late afternoon and that is when my blood sugar is getting low. When I go have a snack first it makes everything feel a lot more under control, so I need to try to remember that. My mood is soooooo dependent on when and what I last ate!!!
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February 15th, 2013, 11:34 AM
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Up to 18 months: nighttime parenting. I love sleep.

After 18 months: gentle discipline. I am a yeller and have to really work to not do it when I get mad or frustrated.
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February 15th, 2013, 11:37 AM
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My current struggle is not feeling like I can be physically close with all my kids as much as I want. I babywear and bedshare, but I can only do that with one baby at a time.
This is one of the MAJOR reasons I am one and done.
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February 15th, 2013, 02:33 PM
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Nighttime parenting for sure, I can't function without sleep and the twins are usually pretty good but sometimes they are up all night and I he almost no sleep
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This is one of the MAJOR reasons I am one and done.
I feel pretty guilty about having 3-under-3. Obviously we knew it was possible since we did our embryo transfer when Claire was 18 months, but I honestly didn't expect it to work...I figured it would take a year or two at least to have another child, and I REALLY didn't expect twins. I wouldn't trade them for the world, but ideally they would have been spaced out a bit more
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February 15th, 2013, 03:50 PM
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Discipline. Not necessarily the being gentle part, because the idea of hurting a child makes me physically ill, but that is how I was raised, so while I don't follow in my parents footsteps, I am sometimes left with a "well what do I do now?!" so sometimes I feel like I don't discipline enough--but usually it just takes an adjustment period and then we're back on track with methods that work for us.
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February 15th, 2013, 05:41 PM
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Definitely sleep deprivation for me. We don't have a particularly rough time getting Eleanor back to sleep at night, so it's not exactly night time parenting, but the broken sleep for such a long time period is wearing me out. I tend to get easily frustrated with adults, but have never really been one to get frustrated with children, so gentle discipline (although I have a lot to learn about it as our kids get older) hasn't been much of a problem so far.
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Gentle discipline. I get irritable on occasion, but I am usually good. Not that great about raising my voice though. I need to work on using my own quiet voice.
Everything else sort of comes naturally. And I don't sleep a whole lot anyways, so nighttime parenting isn't a problem.
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February 15th, 2013, 09:27 PM
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. I tend to get easily frustrated with adults, but have never really been one to get frustrated with children
Although, I have to admit I have been getting frustrated at times but I really think its lack of help or anything around this place!
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February 15th, 2013, 10:37 PM
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At this point, because it is my current challenge, definitely gentle discipline. I lose my temper sometimes and yell sometimes. I figured out though that my worst times of the day are late morning and late afternoon and that is when my blood sugar is getting low. When I go have a snack first it makes everything feel a lot more under control, so I need to try to remember that. My mood is soooooo dependent on when and what I last ate!!!
This is so me!! If my sugar is low I am a raging B.
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February 16th, 2013, 12:34 PM
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Obviously I haven't turned it into a lifestyle yet, because baby isn't here. My biggest challenges with other people's kids - I guess it would be accounting for the differences in what I think is right and what the parents think is right. I looked after two non-verbal autistic kids for a while and all their parents did was scream and hit, so all they did was scream and hit. Of course my idea of punishment was very different from what the kids were used to, so they weren't phased by me at all. I ended up having to use time-outs to get anywhere with them.
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