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March 24th, 2013, 10:42 AM
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Do you have any relatives who do not support your parenting practices?
What types of things do you disagree about?
How do you handle it when they bring those things up?
Have they "come around" on any of these things as they have watched your little one growing up?
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March 24th, 2013, 11:51 AM
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Do you have any relatives who do not support your parenting practices?
no one is really supportive, everyone either tolerates it or is against it.

What types of things do you disagree about?
the biggies with my in-laws are not vaccinating, homebirthing, homeschooling and full term breastfeeding, my parents don't say much, but I can tell that there's some tension with positive discipline.

How do you handle it when they bring those things up?
I change the subject (thank you for your opinion, but I'm very happy with our decision), if they won't get off it I'll just stand my ground. I do my best to avoid the topic entirely, though if I feed my baby in front of other people at my in-laws things get out of hand.

Have they "come around" on any of these things as they have watched your little one growing up?
Not yet, but maybe someday
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March 24th, 2013, 12:44 PM
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Do you have any relatives who do not support your parenting practices? Well, there are benefits and downfalls to having a large, close family Yes, there are several folks in my family who aren't totally supportive of my practices. But, I don't really agree with theirs either. So it's all good. The worst offender is my MIL, as far as being outspoken about it. Generally me and my cousins just silently disagree. But I think my MIL is threatened by my choices being so different than hers, so it means she thinks I am wrong.

What types of things do you disagree about? Mostly bringing my kids up with minds of their own and not trying to mold them into little robots. In regards to my MIL. My cousins are more against stuff like CDs, extended breastfeeding, and why I am a carseat nazi. But that stuff bothers me less than the stuff my MIL gets on me about.

How do you handle it when they bring those things up? I mostly ignore it, since I absolutely take pride in NOT parenting like my MIL. As for my cousins, I might get into a conversation about why I chose something, but I give one or two "reasons" and then move on. We don't generally argue about it or anything. But I know they don't get why I choose certain things.

Have they "come around" on any of these things as they have watched your little one growing up? Nah. I don't expect any of them to. Although I am quite delighted that my one cousin who had a baby in January has come to me quite often with questions about things, instead of her sister, who parents a bit more traditionally. I am glad that she feels comfortable asking me about things without feeling like she should be doing what her sister does. They are close, but I see this one cousin being more of an AP type parent and that makes me happy
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March 24th, 2013, 11:34 PM
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This baby isn't even out yet and I've already met opposition to natural birth, co-sleeping, breastfeeding, and not wanting pacifiers and princessy, frilly things. For the most part people really do not seem to care about logic, so I don't bother quoting research anymore. I just let them know they can do what they want with their kids, and I'll do what I want with mine - and if they think to do what they want with my kid, they'll not be seeing her. If they want to take it beyond that.. well, it's led to some hard feelings. Oh f'ing well
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March 25th, 2013, 10:58 AM
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I think most of my family and DH's family thinks a lot of our choices are weird, but no one is really outspoken about it (well sometimes DH's brother can be, but oh well). My mom has seemed to come around on a lot of things- saying that is she so surprised at how well some of my ideas have been working and it was really smart... so that is nice. Everyone else I'm sure just says polite things to our faces and then talks about how weird we are behind our backs
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