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April 15th, 2013, 08:03 AM
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As parents, we often give our children feedback on their behavior, whether telling them we like something they did or telling them what they need to do in the future to conduct themselves better. But how do you feel about giving a child constructive criticism in other areas of their life? Do you think you should leave them to figure it out on their own, give them feedback, only give feedback when they ask, or does it depend on the situation?
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April 15th, 2013, 10:14 AM
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Garys still so young for this yet. The only thing we do is high fives when he throws stuff in the garbage haha, Or his animal sounds & body parts LOL. But when the time comes, i would say giving helpful feedback is great and sometimes necessary, as long as its nurturing. IMO.
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April 15th, 2013, 11:34 AM
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I think it would depend in the situation. And the intention of the "constructive criticism." I think it needs to absolutely be for the child's good, and sometimes I think parents can get mistaken in who the comments are benefiting. BUT, as long as the child asks for it, I think it is fine to give some gentle constructive criticism. And sparsely. I think it's actually a great way for kids to learn about how to take constructive criticism in the future. Given they have the greatest trust and comfort level with their parents and they can practice taking the comments well and making changes to their actions or whatever. I feel like we have started a little bit with Liam, but nothing "major." Something like Liam scribbling on a piece of paper and then wanting tons of praise for it. We gently comment that he didn't seem to really work in the picture, that if he wanted to give it to someone, he might want to put a little more effort into it. But at this point it's more like a suggestion, one he feels free to disregard! Lol. And when he does put a lot of effort into a picture, we make sure to make a big deal out of it and ask him questions about it. But he is still very young for most of what I think you are talking about.
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April 15th, 2013, 12:55 PM
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I'm definitely of the mind that it's situational. Sometimes they need to figure it out on their own, and sometimes someone does need to step in. It's just very difficult to know when is the right time. That being said, I think some people don't think about it the right way. They can do a lot of damage with good intentions.
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April 18th, 2013, 06:22 PM
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Drake is also too young for this but honestly, I am not sure how or what I would do about constructive criticism. I know that when it is not worded in a "nice" way some people can take offence to what you are saying, I know I have.
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