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April 25th, 2013, 11:36 AM
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lovey's or security blankets/bears..that sort of thing? I'm totally fine with it, Tommy has a bear he has to sleep with and uses it as a pillow, he must have it when ever he naps or goes to bed. My dad keeps telling him he is tossing it, he thinks he is going to have security issues and need to depend on something to put him to sleep. I really don't see it that way, I feel he will eventually out grow it, but right now it helps him feel secure, I don't think he will always need something to provide security.
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April 25th, 2013, 11:47 AM
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I don't see a huge problem with it, I guess I wouldn't make an effort to 'take away' something I can see my child getting attached to, but I also won't be making an effort to encourage it either. As a child I never had a security or comfort item, but my brothers both did...

One of the children I nannied (out of the 5 at the same job) had a "Nan", a stuffed sheep that went EVERYWHERE and did EVERYTHING with her... her parents smartly bought a second one that they swapped out every so often to give 'other nan' a break/bath... and in the event one nan went missing, replacement nan was already well loved and worn in!

My nephew is always sent with a 'must have security item' when he stays with us, but really he's never noticed whether it's in his bed or not... I think they are trying to establish a dependancy on said item(s) and it's just not working.

One of my favorite children's authors (Mo Willems) has a book series called Knuffle Bunny. It's a cute one and talks a little about this topic!!
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April 25th, 2013, 12:14 PM
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I see no problem with that at all! I slept with Little Foot from the land before time from the time I was two up until Drake took him over. Serious. And I have no issues. Drake runs around with him and carries him into bed when he is sleepy. So Little Foot is his "security". I will allow Drake to use that or anything for as long as he wants. Some people sleep hugging a pillow and or there spouse and some people (kid / babies) sleep hugging an object. I see no difference.
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April 25th, 2013, 12:34 PM
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I really don't see the big deal either, he doesn't really carry it everywhere. Just when he is tired, he wants it to fall alseep, its a kinda of a big bear, he uses it as a pillow.
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I actually kind of prefer that my kids have something...a blankie or a stuffed animal that they love. It makes it easy to make them safe and secure when we travel or when they are having a bad day!
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April 25th, 2013, 02:20 PM
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Kristy, Drake is mostly the same way. He carries it around sometimes, but for the most part, he only wants him when he is tired.

I feel like some people are too up tight. Who cares if a child has a security item.
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April 26th, 2013, 06:57 AM
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I still have a lovey, an old baby blanket that is falling apart. It seriously has giant holes in it and all the silkie edging is coming apart, but I won't let anyone fix it or throw it out. I have to hand wash it and dry it alone or other clothes will get wrapped in it.

Bodhi doesn't really have one, but Brigham has his Lovey Puppy, this ratty stuffed dog that he sleeps with every night except when he's at his dad's. We tried letting him take it with, but he would always forget it there so we just told him it would stay at our house and he's dealt with it.
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