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May 2nd, 2013, 08:36 AM
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When you were a little girl how did you dream about being a mother? What did you see for yourself?
How did your own upbringing reflect on becoming a Mother?
How did you meet your husband ( your children’s father)?
What discussions did you have about starting a family? Do you remember telling your husband the first time you were pregnant? Was it a surprise or a long-planned event?
What did you love about pregnancy?
What has given you the most joy as a mother?
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May 2nd, 2013, 09:44 AM
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When you were a little girl how did you dream about being a mother? What did you see for yourself? I have no idea. I just knew I would be someday

How did your own upbringing reflect on becoming a Mother? Well I am way more loving than my father was. My mother was sick most of my childhood (until she obviously passed away) so I unfortunately have not a lot of memories. BUT I know that she was awesome and dedicated to us.

How did you meet your husband ( your children’s father)? in like 2004 on Myspace <3 we did surveys he had a girlfriend and i had a boyfriend (whose birthdays are BOTH today and they BOTH cheated on us. . . )and we met 5 years later at a bar. (we kept up with each other via texts for 5 years prior to meeting)

What discussions did you have about starting a family? Do you remember telling your husband the first time you were pregnant? Was it a surprise or a long-planned event? Not positive on the discussions. He wanted to ttc on our honeymoon. I was thinking like a year later since we were in the process of buying a house right after our wedding and then I decided a few months later, i was ready so we tried and got pregnant. lol I knew I was pregnant before I missed AF and my hubs didnt believe me so I told him that day I would be testing with my cousin. . . i did and i was and he was sad he wasnt there. . . welllll shoulda believed me.

What did you love about pregnancy? My hair and nails were FABULOUS. Also anytime I didnt wanna do something i had an excuse. Im pregnant haha.

What has given you the most joy as a mother? I would honestly say, Just G3 in general seeing him grow, learn, he is so smart and I just feel so happy about how well rounded he seems already!
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May 2nd, 2013, 10:13 AM
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When you were a little girl how did you dream about being a mother? What did you see for yourself? When I was little I always wanted 4 kids. Boy have things changed! I did not have a real vision of how it would be, I just knew I always wanted to have kids.
How did your own upbringing reflect on becoming a Mother? I promised myself I would never let Drake know our financial situation, and that I would never lay guilt on him for things a Mother SHOULD do. I had a lot of guilt when I was a kid, and still do. I was also always made ware of our financial status so I was always scared to ask for things. I want Drake to come to me for everything and anything.
How did you meet your husband ( your children’s father)? We met on WoW, an on line game. I was in a relationship and so was he and they were both awful! I guess we both just felt stuck for lack of words. We talked on the phone and texted for MONTHS. We did not meet sooner because we were almost 2000 miles apart. But I am glad we did! I actually left my BF in the middle of the morning to go to a hotel and pick up Dave from the airport. LOL
What discussions did you have about starting a family? Do you remember telling your husband the first time you were pregnant? Was it a surprise or a long-planned event? We always knew we wanted two kids, then slowly it turned into one. We wanted to give our baby what we did not have a kid, and the first thing was 100% attention and we knew that if we had more kids that 100% would be divided and that was not for us. Drake was planned for a year before we TTC. His name was picked out and everything. We even did research on how to have "boy" sex. I don't know if that worked OR if we got lucky!
What did you love about pregnancy? Honestly, everything. I never was once sick or even felt sick. I never had any pain what so ever. I was not tired like I always hear women say. I loved how I looked. I felt so confident. I thought I looked adorable to be honest. I just felt SO good.
What has given you the most joy as a mother? I cannot pick just one thing. I LOVE seeing Drake go from a newborn to a toddler. It's amazing how much he has learned. I taught him to walk, use a spoon, crawl, all of the above and more and it's such an amazing feeling. I LOVE seeing how incredibly goofy he is, just like me and DH. I just love being a Mamma.
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May 2nd, 2013, 12:11 PM
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When you were a little girl how did you dream about being a mother? What did you see for yourself?
I didn't really dream about it too much until I got pregnant, I just knew it would happen eventually.

How did your own upbringing reflect on becoming a Mother? I wanted something better for my children

How did you meet your husband ( your children’s father)? at a bible study. I walked into the room and as soon as I laid eyes on him I knew I was going to marry him someday (even though I wasn't too thrilled at the time)

What discussions did you have about starting a family? Do you remember telling your husband the first time you were pregnant? Was it a surprise or a long-planned event?
we were planning on having kids after he finished college. He didn't really want to go and kept putting it off. When I got pregnant with Eliana (which was a surprise, but not really if you KWIM) he used it as an excuse to settle down at his job and in this town.

What did you love about pregnancy? Those days in the second trimester where you just feel full of life, literally and figuratively.

What has given you the most joy as a mother? I love watching them grow, and the one on one time I get with them is very important to me.
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May 2nd, 2013, 01:59 PM
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When you were a little girl how did you dream of being a mother? What did you see for yourself?
Honestly I never dreamed about it. I just thought that one day it would happen. I never dreamed about my future. weird..

How did your own upbringing reflect on becoming a Mother?
My parents were awesome. I mean they sheltered me a little bit but whatever. They were always there for me, came to all my soccer games, my dad coached them, we took family vacations and did all that good stuff. My mom was so decorative and loved holidays and always did special things for us. I want to be just as involved as they are. I just won't shelter my kids as much. But otherwise I want to do everything they did.

How did you meet your husband? I was working at a restaurant with his nephew (they are the same age) and he came into the bar one night with pink hair and we hit it off right away. I went home with him that night and pretty much we never were apart after that.

What discussions did you have about starting a family? Do you remember telling your husband the first time you were pregnant?
ha. a discussion.. we had known each other for like 4 months before I got pregnant.. we found out i was pregnant 3 weeks after we "officially" started dating. He told me I was pregnant. I was like no way but I knew it was true I was so sick.

What did you love about pregnancy? pushing them out. lol. no but really I was sick every single day all day, was exhausted, had the worst sciatica and high blood pressure.

What has given you the most joy as a mother?
seeing them together and how much they love each other. And how excited they get for each other when they do something new. I just love everything!
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May 2nd, 2013, 03:36 PM
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When you were a little girl how did you dream about being a mother? What did you see for yourself? I always knew I wanted kids, it just felt right.

How did your own upbringing reflect on becoming a Mother? I try really hard to not yell at Gabby, sometimes its hard though. My mom yelled A LOT.

How did you meet your husband ( your children’s father)? In an msn chatroom. He was supposed to meet my now best friend the night he met me. I tease them all the time about it.

What discussions did you have about starting a family? Do you remember telling your husband the first time you were pregnant? Was it a surprise or a long-planned event? We never really discussed it much. For the longest time I thought I couldn't get pregnant.(10 years unprotected sex and nothing!) THEN in 2010 I took a test after missing my period and it was positive. Big surprise. Unfortunatley that pregnancy ended in miscarriage and 7 months later I was pregnant with Gabby!

What did you love about pregnancy? I loved feeling her move, other than that absolutely nothing! I had a horrible painful pregnancy.

What has given you the most joy as a mother? watching her grow and learn everyday is amazing.
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May 2nd, 2013, 03:52 PM
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When you were a little girl how did you dream about being a mother? What did you see for yourself? Nope. I was a tomboy. I never even held a baby til I was 17 and my mom had my first brother.
How did your own upbringing reflect on becoming a Mother? I'm not sure.
How did you meet your husband ( your children’s father)? He worked at the barn where I kept my horse.
What discussions did you have about starting a family? Do you remember telling your husband the first time you were pregnant? Was it a surprise or a long-planned event? He knew I wanted a baby. I remember telling him we were standing in the electronics section of the PX, and for Caleb I told him in a fathers day letter I wrote him.
What did you love about pregnancy? Cute clothes! Baby showers, nesting Birth!
What has given you the most joy as a mother? Being able to devote myself as much as I can, and be as selfless as I can and it comes naturally. I see so many women force themselves to care, I know some girls who would rather go out and party than to be a mom and I'm glad I'm not like that.
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May 2nd, 2013, 07:26 PM
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When you were a little girl how did you dream about being a mother? What did you see for yourself?I wanted to be married, get pregnant (carry my own babies) and be a SAHM.
How did your own upbringing reflect on becoming a Mother?My mom babysat so she could stay home until we were school age... so not identical. Plus my parents were quite traditional. That said I had a very happy childhood, and I wanted to be the mom of happy kids
How did you meet your husband ( your children’s father)?we worked at a children's camp together.
What discussions did you have about starting a family? Do you remember telling your husband the first time you were pregnant? Was it a surprise or a long-planned event?we talked about # of kids and style of discipline etc during pre marital counseling over 6 years ago! I cut out the words "You're going to be a Daddy" and a little baby using my cricut and stuck them to the wall for when he got home from work. We had been NTNP, with plans to really actively start trying the following cycle!
What did you love about pregnancy?I am loving baby's movements, and knowing that I am growing this little squishy, new human that is part me and part DH... it's pretty awesome
What has given you the most joy as a mother?that has yet to be seen!
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May 3rd, 2013, 12:27 AM
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Oh boy, you're asking for a novel from me! I'll try not to ramble.

When you were a little girl how did you dream about being a mother? I definitely did not. I wanted nothing to do with children, ever. It wasn't until I was about 23 and had my first real exposure to a child that I felt the desire to have my own.

How did your own upbringing reflect on becoming a Mother? It has given me some very strong convictions about what absolutely will not be done around my child, and has thinned my trust down to almost nothing. There are so many harmful things my siblings and I were exposed to and I will fight as much as need be to protect my own child from those things. I also don't see myself trusting anyone but a select few with her. I've seen just how far you can really trust people. If I don't already trust them now, I have no intention of giving them the chance to mess up with my child involved. Positive things - I guess that I place a really high value on early education in the home, because we were taught to read and write very early.

How did you meet your husband ( your children’s father)? Mutual friends.

What discussions did you have about starting a family? Do you remember telling your husband the first time you were pregnant? Was it a surprise or a long-planned event? It was a series of discussions over time. I think it first came up (seriously) about a year and a half before we decided to start TTC, then a few months later, and a few months after that, etc. One or the other of us kept bringing up different aspects of it. I think BF got really invested about two months before we started TTC. He asked about how my depression medication would impact a pregnancy. I got the information the next week and we kind of tossed it around for a few more months. Finally in early October we set a definite time frame - within the next two years. Then he kind of sprang it on me October 29th that he was ready. I was not expecting it to be as easy as it was! A few weeks later I tested positive, and I happened to have a pelvic ultrasound scheduled the same day to look at an ovarian cyst. I took a picture of the screen (just a picture of my ovary, really - she didn't let me see the sac though I was told she saw it). That day just so happened to be the one that he worked ALL day, and I spent it in agony wanting to tell him. I didn't want to do it over the phone, though. I waited and showed it to him that night to spill the beans.

What did you love about pregnancy? I have to be honest, there isn't much I don't like about it. I love it. I've been very lucky to have an easy pregnancy physically and emotionally. I think I'm going to miss it.

What has given you the most joy as a mother? So far in my limited experiences, the idea of the joys I know children in general bring. I'm really looking forward to those and all the things I've also never experienced.
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May 3rd, 2013, 12:27 AM
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May 3rd, 2013, 06:27 PM
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When you were a little girl how did you dream about being a mother? What did you see for yourself?
I never wanted kids lol I always said I'm never having kids. I had tons of younger siblings and they just always got on my nerves.

How did your own upbringing reflect on becoming a Mother?
My mom was really busy she worked out of the country a lot and even when she was home she would be locked in her room working. I felt more comfortable with my nanny than my own mother. I love her but I just felt like she could have tried to bond more with me and my brothers when she was home. So when I'm home with twins I bond with them when I can. I felt like my dad and my step made us help too much with the younger kids. When I was 10 they would leave me home alone with 5 kids ranging from 7 to 18 months. And they would be mad if the house wasn't clean. So I promised myself that I wouldn't do that to my own kids.

How did you meet your husband ( your children’s father)?
I started dating him when I was 14, he was my serious boyfriend, my first kiss, my first everything. We met the first day of school freshman year.

What discussions did you have about starting a family? Do you remember telling your husband the first time you were pregnant? Was it a surprise or a long-planned event?
We talked about having kids in the far future. We both cried when we saw the little line show up on the home pregnancy test. And we were hysterical when we found out I was pregnant with twins.

What did you love about pregnancy?My boobs! They were like amazing porn star boobs besides that nothing I was miserable. I was throwing up like 10 times a day, I had heartburn, I couldn't sleep at night.

What has given you the most joy as a mother?
It's hard to pick one thing, when the twins started calling me mama consistently, the first time they reached up for me when I picked them up, watching them learn to sit up, crawl, and walk, watching them bond with each other, I just love all of it.
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