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I finally broke down and bought a swing. Teddy loves it and it gives me time to be with Peter one-on-one.
I can't help but feel guilty though. Peter was held or worn at all time. Even while I showered. I feel bad that Teddy doesn't get the same level of attention that Peter got.... I know, it's silly. I just love my boys so much and am having a hard time dividind my time fairly for them....
The seat comes off and it can be used as a bouncy seat/rocker. Peter likes to sit in it as watch tv sometimes.
I know what you mean. I do no have another child but I can only imagine.
A baby swing is good! If he likes it then there is no guilt needed! He is not neglected, Mamma is just taking time to love up on her other boy. It's ok! You can still shower with him too. You are doing the best you can and there is nothing wrong with that!
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I am glad he likes the swing! Don't feel guilty you have 2 kids now of course its going to be different. But thats ok. Now you have 2 adorable boys to love on. If he likes the swing than that gives you time to spend with peter alone which is also important. You are doing a great job and the less you stress the better you will feel.
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I also see nothing wrong with using the swing at all!!! I know you would never leave him to scream it out in there, but just look how peaceful and happy he is! He must be so comfy!!!
We were given a swing, and a bouncy chair, and a play mat etc from my SIL, and I have all 3 washed and ready to go for whenever I feel like me or baby could use it! I see nothing wrong with these things. None are 'required' but there is nothing wrong with using them!
There is definitely nothing wrong with having a little you time, or a little you and DS time
I know that feeling of guilt you're talking about. I don't have two kids, but there were times when I tended multiple kids. The two in particular I'm thinking of I was over the moon for, they were great girls. However the youngest got used to spending the whole day with me while the oldest was at school, and so when the oldest got home they were fighting for attention. It was really hard! I felt bad for not being able to give the little one as much attention as I did all day. I felt equally bad for not being able to give the older one that same attention, especially because I'd known her her whole life and she was used to getting all of my attention before her sister was born.
I know it feels like you're doing something wrong either way, but I hope you can try to not feel too bad. Really you aren't, you're just trying to give everyone what they need. I think you're doing a great job of it.
I always figure that different kids get different things from the family. The oldest one benefits from being the only kid and getting a lot of one on one attention from both parents. The second kid will not get as much one on one from the parents because it isnt physically possible. He will on the other hand get attention from parents plus big brother which on it's own is quite precious.
My first spent the first 5 months in my lap. My second on the other hand has always been bit more independent with playing by herself and as a baby would scream at me until I put her down on the floor few times. Her big sister is her favorite person in the whole world. She still wants attention from me and will come and snuggle when she needs to. I am pretty confident that her needs are being met.
Hvor er toalettet? Skal vi danse? Gratulerer med fødselsdagen Luftputefartøyet mitt er fullt av ål Ett språk er aldri nok
I used a swing with both of my kids. They're both motion junkies and when I need that space from being touched out it's perfect. In fact, Zoe is currently snoozing away in her travel swing. It was a very long day and I NEED some space from her so that I can be a better mommy overnight to her. In the end, use what works.