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Grrr, awful! Drake slept in my arms for MONTHS and guess what?! He sleeps ALONE now, in our bed but alone. I can put him down and leave the room for like 3 hours and do my thing and he will stay asleep. And you know, the later he goes to sleep the later he sleeps. What idiots. Some babies cry...I am sorry. No. Respond to them. Make them eat if you think they need more and not let them fall asleep...um no. Drake has done this MANY times. If he falls asleep and he did not finish his bottle, so what!
I swear people that write these either have no kids or are not emotionally attached to them.
Emily, I agree. I will be 29 and I still wake ALL THE TIME. Half the time Drake is still asleep.
I dont cosleep but I dont understand why SO MANY people are against it! I have a schedule and routine and Gary does not wake up throughout the night. I keep the monitor next to me & I hear everything, if the dog yawns too loud I wake up lol but who the hell decided that THIS is what everyone should do! ? People need to stop writing articles that only pertain to them and stick with taking care of their own kids and let everyone else be! ARgH!
Wow. Really, wow. The only thing that had any merit at all is that some babies do fuss in their sleep for 2 seconds. I've seen one baby do it. All of one noise out of his mouth and he was back to sleep, eyes never even opened. There is a BIG difference between some babies and ALL babies. What a pretentious a**.
So DH was telling me about a coworker of his who is pregnant. She knows DH is a daddy and they had lunch together a couple of days in a row. She told him how she's already planning out baby's schedule and how her baby WILL be STTN by 2 months, only needing a bottle (she'll pump though of course) every 3 hours, etc. She's really researched this and knows that her methods can't fail. DH said he tried not to laugh at first, but then just couldn't help himself. He told her to keep her mind open because every baby is different and btw good luck with that. Where does she get these ideas from? Pinterest posting like the above! Oy.
Sarah, I agree 100%. They really do need to stop writing things like that. Or if they really want to then they can word things differently. Like "In my opinion I think..." or "What worked for me was...". Why do they have to make it seem like if you are not doing this then you are wrong. I hate that.
Will be SSTN at 2 months old? She is in for a ride awakening. And I have noticed, when people plan there babies out to the T before they have them and they do not do what they planned they start to question there baby. Not smart IMO.
The bottom line is you cannot plan out your baby since your baby not act the way you imagine. And also, I feel like when you plan out exactly what to do, when to do it etc, you will not have that close of a bond. This is not meant for you Sarah! I know you have a schedule, but your situation is totally different.
LOL I didnt think it was about meeeee. . . .until you said that! lol jk. We do what works for us and we have a great bond, our kid is awesome
We really didn't "plan" it out either, he just has a great sleeping schedule and he looooves to sleep so that helps! haha
I've seen a pinterest post that was (reportedly) word for word from some book called BabyWise. It tells you that you can ensure your baby will be sleeping through the night by however many months. It was kind of frightening to me! And people don't do the research themselves so they just take this stuff as gospel. Like you said Jess making sure people know it is opinion, not fact, really should be practiced!
The thing I heard most when I was pregnant with the twins was "you are going to have to get them on a schedule asap or you won't survive." I politely thanked them for their advice and then added that I didn't believe in scheduling babies. I got lots of eye rolls as they assured me that I would change my mind.
In the NICU, babies are very scheduled...mine were scheduled to eat every 3 hours, A on the hour and G at 30 minutes past. Well guess what...they weren't gaining weight properly because babies don't care about the nurses and their schedules. You can't make a baby who isn't hungry eat! I finally convinced them to let me feed the babies when they showed hunger cues instead of by the clock, and the doctor was shocked at their progress. They ate, and they ate a lot! Their weight gain suddenly jumped up, and the babies were home within days. Needless to say we don't have them on a schedule at home either we are doing great. My little 4-pound preemies are only 7 months adjusted and wearing 12 month clothes. Take that, schedulers
I think the part people forget is that being a parent isn't about what is convenient for YOU...it is about what the baby needs.