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Hubby's son is staying with us for the summer and his mother feeds him junk food like mc donalds and microwave stuff. Well at our house I actually cook dinner, we eat real food. So now we're dealing with refusing to eat. So far what we do is offer desert if he finishes his food, if he doesn't eat it goes back into the fridge for later, if that doesn't work then he waits til next meal time. He is 7 years old. I don't think we should have to cook different meals just to appeal to him. The food isn't disgusting by any means. Madison eats it just fine.
How does your hubby feel about it?
On the one hand, making him eat whats in front of him won't be a lesson that sticks if he always gets whatever he wants when he's with his mom.
On the other hand, at your house it makes sense that he would eat what you are having as a family.
If he's with you all summer then I would suggest letting him help with meal ideas that everyone can agree on.
include him in preparing it if he's interested in that and if not- maybe compromise and if he can eat without issue that on the weekend he can have a meal of his choosing-even if its frozen pizza or mcdonalds.
My daughter is almost seven and I always ask her what she feels like for dinners that week when we go shopping together.
But she's been raised on healthier food choices- but I do feel like its good for them to have options at that age.
I can't imagine having to eat someone else's food choices ALL THE TIME.
I don't see why kids shouldn't have choices-they should be healthy choices but maybe just giving him different choices and including him in the planning might help?
Thats definitely a crap situation. I had to eat what my mom cooked when I was 7 if I didnt i knew the consequences and there was no choices. I mean sometimes she would say this or this but it was what it was I hated squash but if that was the vegetable that night I had to eat it. . . blegh. lol Anyway I dunno I feel like your hubs should have a talk with him. Good luck girlie!
I wonder if someone at your local health department would talk to him? They usually have nutrition programs to teach kids about healthy eating. It might be another way to encourage him to try the things you guys offer him.
One thing that new siblings bring out in some kids is a sense of losing control over their lives, their parents, etc. Maybe not feeling important anymore. Sometimes even resentment. He may be feeling these things towards your son and his father. Helping him regain a sense of control might help. Letting him have a hand in meal planning can be a way to do that. I definitely agree with keeping the food for later if he doesn't want it now, so he doesn't think he can just say no and it is gone.
Well we tried asking him what he wanted for dinner. He said green beans, so I made him greenbeans with carrots mixed, pork chops and macaroni and cheese. Well He ate a little bit of everything, ate all of the carrots left a majority of the green beans and then hubby caught him throwing it away when we both went upstairs. So he got in trouble for that. :-/ I am not home tonight to make dinner.
I am late here, but I just wanted to say I wouldn't make him eat what is on his place, as long as he tries it, that is ok! Let him regulate how much he eats, you know? It sounds like he tried everything the other night, and that is good. Maybe he just wasn't hungry anymore. He eats a bit, and that is it for the night? I wouldn't make dessert every night, maybe just sundays or something?
As a parent, it's your job to serve the food. You CAN NOT force a child to eat so don't feel bad if they don't. You serve the food, they eat it (or don't) their choice
Here is what my friend posted to another friend recently going through the same thing:
"Our therapist said you can't make them eat, can't make them sleep, and can't make them use the bathroom - all things we worry about endlessly but can't force! It's not easy being a parent.
Fortunately, for you, a hunger strike is self limiting. She will NOT starve, and even if you aren't okay with her not eating anything all day, she is! Our feeding therapist told me that I was actually making things worse by following my daughter around trying to get her to have a nibble of this or that. What's a mom to do?!?
I will tell you what our therapist had me do.
#1 - no nibble tray. Stop all grazing. Have set snack and meal times. Try to have them at least 2.5 hours apart.
#2 - at meal times, offer a plate with 3 bites of food on it. No more, no less. Sometimes children get overwhelmed by too much.
#3 - put the plate in front of her saying, "here's your snack (lunch, dinner, whatever)" and then TURN AWAY. Be completely unconcerned about it. Act as if you don't really care if she eats it or not. If you are in the kitchen, go do something like wipe the cabinets or put dishes away. IGNORE.
#4 - if she eats the food, say, "Oh you ate it all. Do you want some more?" Do not say it happy or sad. Be completely matter of fact. Give 3 more bites as before.
#5 - if she doesn't eat the food, say, "Oh you must not be hungry. Okay then." AGAIN, not happy or sad. Completely matter of fact. Take it up. Do not offer anything else to eat until the next meal time.
#6 - Leave a cup of water in her reach at all times. Don't remark on it, just have it there. Reserve any other beverages for meal times.
#7 - Do not stress. Stay matter of fact. Don't tie emotional reactions into her eating or not. Food is fuel for her body. She will not starve. Repeat that to yourself if you need to."
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