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  #21  
August 23rd, 2013, 03:34 PM
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I actually own this book, my parents gave it to me when I got pregnant.

This book, and the family are super popular around here. One of the big big reasons I stay away from the churches. They do it because they think it's the best and only way to have obedient, godly children. (and they sure are obedient, but at what cost?)

I'm currently following the trial for Hana Williams, whose parents used the book and caused her death. The Pearls have said that parents who end up killing their child just weren't following the book right, but I've read the book, and it seems that they did everything to the letter. It just chills me.
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August 23rd, 2013, 10:01 PM
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That's crazy! I remember you telling me a few months ago that it's not very AP there and I did not understand how that could be or how you would know...but I would not be able to be around people like that. Why was the book bought for you? Were you expected to parent like that? Whatever the case may be, I am glad you parent differently.

Ok, so, since you've read the book. It's much worse then the quotes I have seen, yeah? How did you manage to read the whole thing? I feel like I would cry.
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August 24th, 2013, 02:20 PM
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That's crazy! I remember you telling me a few months ago that it's not very AP there and I did not understand how that could be or how you would know...but I would not be able to be around people like that. Why was the book bought for you? Were you expected to parent like that? Whatever the case may be, I am glad you parent differently.

Ok, so, since you've read the book. It's much worse then the quotes I have seen, yeah? How did you manage to read the whole thing? I feel like I would cry.
My parents already owned it and passed it on. I don't know if anything was expected out of me, but my parents tend to try to get their way subtly.

At the time I read it I thought it was normal, it bothered me, but it's all stuff I'm used to. My parents certainly didn't follow the book to the letter, but we were definitely under a relationship based on fear and punishment instead of love and connection.

The more I know though, the more what I remember nauseates me. I'm very glad that this sort of thing doesn't feel real or normal any more.
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August 24th, 2013, 07:46 PM
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My parents already owned it and passed it on. I don't know if anything was expected out of me, but my parents tend to try to get their way subtly.

At the time I read it I thought it was normal, it bothered me, but it's all stuff I'm used to. My parents certainly didn't follow the book to the letter, but we were definitely under a relationship based on fear and punishment instead of love and connection.

The more I know though, the more what I remember nauseates me. I'm very glad that this sort of thing doesn't feel real or normal any more.
I just want to give you **hugs** it makes me so sad to think of well meaning parents getting their minds twisted by this stuff.

It is a truly powerful thing what you are doing by breaking with that tradition and creating a new tradition of loving attachment in your family that your children can pass on.
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