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I am way more laid back that I was during pregnancy for sure! I really just don't have time to waste on worry, I'd much rather soak up all the happy that he brings me! I've really discovered that as a parent so much is out of your control (within reason) So for example I don't let people smoke around Arthur, our home is 100% smoke free, he sleeps on his back, and has a wearable blanket with no pillows or other suffocation hazards at night... that's all great but you know what, I still can't stop him from having a seizure and dying in the night. You know. It sounds horrid, but I've realized that I can't protect him from everything 100% of the time is actually kind of freeing!
...and now I've gone and made myself sound like the worst mom ever!
No, I fight it hard. I don't believe it is healthy to hover or worry excessively. For me or for the child. I think it is important for them to feel at home in the world and not live in fear. However I do freak out about things like cars and fire and drowning hazards, major safety issues. I try to avoid getting M into situations that expose her to such dangers and if we get in one anyway, I am super vigilant.
^^Thats me. I don't worry about every little thing. I don't think it's healthy. I give them lots of freedom and don't freak out over basic things. But the "biggies" send me into "lifeguard" mode. There are aspects I can't avoid...my mom has a pool and we live on a busy road. So I just focus on teaching and protecting them in those scenarios. I have a few bizarre niggling worries that I fight against because they aren't really worth my energy. But I do have to remember to chill out and protect them the best I can while giving them lots of space to learn their own abilities.