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Payge hardly cries. Everytime she grunts I'm there taking care of her. Have since day 1. I love her so much and take care of her. She is held close and cuddled to sleep then I put her in the cradle. She is sleeping in our room has since she came home but we had a few nights with her in her room, she will be after we get gas in our house so that we will have heat. Don't get me wrong we do have a little heater in our bedroom for her. Anyways what do you guys think honestly. Do I belong here. You won't hurt my feeling so don't worry about that.
Honestly, I think that if you think you belong here, then you do! Like I've said before, I think Attachment Parenting is more about your relationship with your child than any specific set of behaviors. The most important thing is that you listen to and respond to your baby's needs. The only thing I can think of that is generally not accepted as AP is letting your baby cry-it-out (cry by him/herself uncomforted).
Proud mom to my little kookaburra, Alden (03/02). #2 due 06/16/05
I was wondering the same thing about myself. I never let her cry without comforting her. I hold her a lot but I can't wear her in a sling cause I have back problems and it just doesn't work for me. I do bf, but I don't co-sleep (she is in a basinette in our room right now but will soon move into her own room). Am I "attached"?
I tried to wear my first two children, but never mastered it. I'm going to try again this time, but if I can't wear them, I just hold them. I don't fit the "mold" persay of ap as far as cloth diapers and some things, but I think of AP as developing such a relationship with your child that you understand and respond to their needs appropriately. I agree with the person who said the only thing not at all AP is the CIO method. I don't see how you could be attached if you practice that. Other things are personal preference (and that may be your preference and it may be your babies preference) My first child slept with us a lot. We always rocked her to sleep, she would then go to her bed (for the first year + that was in our room), when she woke up during the night she would come to our bed and spend the rest of the night. It was exactly what was best for our family. She was happy, we were happy. Isn't that the goal? My son on the other hand, never slept well with us. I would bring him to bed with me to nurse, but he would not sleep well in our bed, until he was probably about 2. Now, he loves to snuggle and sleep with us sometimes. He was very snuggly, and loved to be rocked and held, but at sleep time, he rested better in bed. Therefore, that's what we let him do. I think THAT is what AP is all about.
Lori - I agree w/you girl! Thanks for bumping this post up, too! I think respecting the needs of your baby is soooooo important - even if that means that they don't "need" to cosleep! Some kids needm ore independence than that!