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I have never heard the term attachment parenting until this forum. I didn't really know that's what I did with my son!
I didn't co-sleep with him, because I'm a violent, restless sleeper and I was afraid I would hurt him. But I nursed as long as I could, if he cried, he was picked up immediately, he didn't cry himself to sleep, he didn't get ignored if he was voicing distress, for any reason at all. I carried him in a snuggly until he was too big to fit in one anymore, and to this day (he's 10) his favorite way to go anywhere is on my back! That doesn't work too well anymore, since I'm 5 feet tall and he's about 4 and a half now!
My mom had some very serious reservations about my parenting techniques. She was...well, not to put too fine a point on it, horrified when I told her I was going to nurse, and she gave me unending hell for picking him up as soon as he whimpered. However, when he was born and I was nursing him, she actually said to me that she regretted not doing it with me and my sister after watching me do it with DS. She never got over the "too much attention, you're spoiling" him thing, but I told her that the day someone proved I was spoiling my child by loving him too much, I'd stop.
Go for it ladies...you are this childs parent, and only you know what's right for him or her. No one else has to raise your child or live in your heart, so you follow what's right to you.
Pretty much everyone in my family thinks dh and I are nuts, except for my MIL. It's funny, because they are always amazed at how bright, funny, and behaved when we're out. Good thing I didn't listen to them in the begining.
Oh I have gotten all kinds of advice from my family about crying out and breast feeding, mainly being if you pick them up you will spoil them and you should stop breastfeeding any time I have even the slightest problem with it. They weren't very supportive when we were having problems. My mom actually is the most supportive though and has the least negative things to say, my sisters though, whew! They think I'm nuts too. But I don't get faced with it too much, we live a thousand miles away. So they really don't know what I do unless I tell them and I am very happy with it that way
Linda, mommy to Nikolas & Andrew, 5 year old twin boys and Ember Rose, almost 3.