I read about how many people are with their wedding rings.. Hey if it works for the two of you awesome! They are supposed to respresent love and eternal commit.... What's your opinion?

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Here's mine!

They are supposed to respresent whether or not someone is in love and in a committed relationship but I think they've become a symbol of other things... if they weren't why do so many people judge people who don't wear them? Why do people look down on a woman with a baby and no ring? Since when did rings become a political statement? Probably since they were used, eh?

Anyway, my step mom and dad have been together for 25 years but are not married. My (step) mom is a working stay at home mom so between gardening, dishes and carrying groceries, it's pointless for her to wear jewerly in her opinion. (She does wear them on occasions but for the most part doesn't. Dad did buy her an engagement ring forever ago...) They are in a commitetted relationship... they don't need rings to prove that.

I've been married for 10 years and both dh and I rarely wear them. When people ask why, we just say it's pretty obvious we don't rings to be faithful... anyone who was interested in us for a b/f or g/f knows really quick that we are married.. My exception to that is when I want to make a good impression at a first time meet ~ like a job interview. Sometimes I wear rings (including my wedding ring) just to feel feminine (although that is kinda an oxymoron as I am a girl!) Honestly I think rings are just bad for circulation too, but so are the cute, tight shoes I wear so I'm kinda a hypocrite there.

In a weird way I think I'm helping gays who are not allowed to were wedding bands in general... And all the single moms out there who are unfairly judged.. makes me mad. It feel liberating but I know in my heart that being faithful is always there... I'm loyal to my husband without the ring.

[**Jenn**]

I wear both my rings but I also just got married last month! I got a lot of looks walking around pregnant and then with my baby before the wedding and I didn't really care. Those people didn't know me and if they want to look down on me for not wearing a ring then thats their problem.

I wear my rings because I love them and they are special to me. I waited a long time for these rings and I'm gonna wear them d@mnit! Most people didn't even know my engagement ring was an engagement ring because its not a diamond, its a sapphire because that is what I love and what I wanted.

My husband's parents don't wear rings and honestly it was a couple years before I even noticed. A lot of people I know see the ring as a status symbol. Like the bigger the rock the more he must love me so they show it off, tell how much it cost, etc. My cousin is getting engaged any day now and when she heard her Mom saw the ring the first question out of her mouth was, "Is it big enough?" I know a lot of our friends (now ex friends) looked down on my ring because not only was it not a diamond *the horror* but it didn't cost $10,000 like theres did. Does this mean my marriage won't last because I don't have an expensive ring on my finger? Certainly not!

I think you should do what you're comfortable with. Around the house I don't wear my engagement ring so much because I tend to scratch the baby with it but I usually put it on when I go out of the house. Just because I think they're so pretty and love them together. And I agree, you don't need rings to show that you are in a committed relationship, I just like wearing mine.

I LOVE THAT POST! I really do think most people are like you about it.. that's why I put this in fluffy stuff.. Wear it proud hon! (I don't have an engagement ring.. but if I ever had one, I wouldn't get a diamond either!)

[LouLouMom]

Ditto to what Jen said. I don't have a big rock either but then again, we're not in debt because of a piece of jewelry dh and I worked at the mall when we got engaged and I remind him once in a while that at some point, he has to cough up something sparkly So far I've gotten 1 carat diamond earrings and that took 10 years I can't stand women who say, well I won't take anything less than 2 carats or whatever. If your man has to buy your love...you shouldn't be getting married. I always wear mine not because of what it represents to others but what it represents to my husband and I. Plus I told him that his head would explode if he took his off I'm in a mood today! I have just as much respect for you Michelle and your personal reasons for not wearing one. My original engagement ring was a sapphire too but it was an heirloom and the prongs kept breaking so it sits in a box now. The ring I wear, aside from the band, is a small 3 stone diamond ring.

[frgsonmysox]

my engagement ring is actually Chris's grandma's wedding band. So it's really unflashy. I wear my rings because I'm proud to be married...and my husband would kill me if I took them off. I like Chris to wear his so women know he is taken, he can't wear it for his job, but as soon as he steps off the plane he puts his back on.

[Deb]

I don't wear them at home (my hands swell a lot), but when I go out, yes I absolutely do. DH and I were living together when we got married, and we chose our rings together, and it was exactly what I wanted and yes we paid on them for a little while (but got a great financing deal, no interest if we paid them off in 12 months, which we did!).

I don't wear any other jewelry, except an anklet DH bought me. I don't think my "image" is caught up in my wedding rings, but they're beautiful, they're what I'd always wanted, and I love them - so I wear them. If that makes me shallow, then so be it!

[brittbratt]

I wish I could wear mine I havent wore it in about 4 years! I had it sized to a 4 when I lost a ton of weight but since then have got pregnant twice and gained, so now it wont budge past my nuckle. I could have it resized but losing weight to fit it seems like a better option I hate not being able to wear it. My dh always wears his so I feel really guilty

[Jewellzz]

I can't stand women who say, well I won't take anything less than 2 carats or whatever. If your man has to buy your love...you shouldn't be getting married.[/b]

Well, on the other side of that....if someone can't afford to spend a few hundred dollars on a ring, can they really afford to be getting married? If they have no savings and not even a good enough credit rating to buy a ring on credit, they must not be very reliable (that's what I would think anyway). And how can you trust someone like that?

I mean, things can happen during the course of a marriage and you need to know that the other person will be able to take care of things if need be, like if one spouses loses their job or there is an unplanned pregnancy.

Don't get me wrong, I don't see a need for people to spend thousands of dollars on this, go into debt, and whatnot, that is money better spent on, say, a house.

But NO ring? Or a cheap one? That sends the wrong message in my opinion. The guy is saying "I don't care enough about you to buy you a real ring OR I'm cheap OR I'm to broke to get married OR I have bad credit". Why would a woman want to settle for that?

[babyn2]

Well, on the other side of that....if someone can't afford to spend a few hundred dollars on a ring, can they really afford to be getting married? If they have no savings and not even a good enough credit rating to buy a ring on credit, they must not be very reliable (that's what I would think anyway). And how can you trust someone like that?

I mean, things can happen during the course of a marriage and you need to know that the other person will be able to take care of things if need be, like if one spouses loses their job or there is an unplanned pregnancy.

Don't get me wrong, I don't see a need for people to spend thousands of dollars on this, go into debt, and whatnot, that is money better spent on, say, a house.

But NO ring? Or a cheap one? That sends the wrong message in my opinion. The guy is saying "I don't care enough about you to buy you a real ring OR I'm cheap OR I'm to broke to get married OR I have bad credit". Why would a woman want to settle for that?
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I have to agree with LouLouMom, I think that some girls are just all about the "wedding," the ring, the parties, the wedding. And guess what, that all goes away and you have to stay with the person you married. Size doesn't matter .

My husband and I were together 10 years before he propsed. It was very important to HIM that he get me the perfect ring. He shopped for days, and was very proud of what he had gotten, a unique ring that you don't see on everyone else. I wear my engagement ring and matching band to work every day, just because it makes me feel good to know how it got to be there. Does this make any kind of sense? I still chuckle when I think about how he got a speeding ticket the day he picked it up. He was going to get his hair cut and he was going to be late. He was afraid the girl that cuts his hair would mention that he was late to me(since I know her well), and then I would ask him where he was...you know the deal. This was his surprise, his secret, no one knew that he was going to propose, and looking at my ring reminds me of how happy I was that day, (and still am!).

Now, when I am home, I usually don't put them on, I like to be au natural at home!! But if I leave the house without them, I feel naked!!!!


It kind of irks me when I hear that some ladies picked out their own rings. This is supposed to be a gift given out of love to represent a promise. I would be happy with whatever I was given. That is just me though.

[Jen25]

I dont wear mine much, simply becuase I only wear jewlery when I feel like it, lol. The only thing I wear all the time are my earings. I dont see what the big deal is. It doesnt change the fact that you are married.

And Im really offended by the whole "no ring or cheap ring" comment The ring that my dh proposed with is very small and inexpensive. He did not have much when we first met. I dont understand how the amount of money or level of credit someone has is a direct reflection on their charcter...He is an awesome husband who provides everything we need and a lot of our wants.

Now on to the girl picking out the ring.. That is a little absurd. Some men dont want to pick out stuff like that. My dh hates picking out jewlery. He wants me to be happy with it, and WANTS me to pick it out. How does that make it any less meaningful? He picked out my original ring but it wasnt a fun experience for him. He made me pickout my upgraded one.

And Im really offended by the whole "no ring or cheap ring" comment The ring that my dh proposed with is very small and inexpensive. He did not have much when we first met. I dont understand how the amount of money or level of credit someone has is a direct reflection on their charcter...He is an awesome husband who provides everything we need and a lot of our wants.[/b]

It's funny how perspectives change eh? This is a little off topic but I feel like sharing.

When I was 16 we started dating.. we were pretty serious right away.. we both knew it. That Christmas he got me a ring. I put it on my right hand right away. (He said he felt so relieved about it.) People asked if it was a promise ring and I said we don't believe in those and this is a Christmas gift. Well, more to the point, he was working at a gas station.. since we were both in H.S. his cheques were pretty much our spending money. It took two of of his cheques and it was the first time our local jewerly store EVER let someone have a payment plan. The ring is "cheap" compared to what some would think but I love it and I would be devastated if I lost it.

[Fallen2Love]

I voted "yes I wear mine", but currently I can't because of darn swelling!

When we first got married, a ring ment nothing to me. It just more of a "status symbol" then anything else. DH insisted on getting rings, and he wanted me to pick out a riing with a diamond in it, and all the jaz. But if I had to have a ring, I just wanted a plain band. Now, I love wearing my ring. Its a feeling I can't describe.

I just hate that people will look on your finger to see if you have a ring or not. I still think that people view it as more of a "status symbol" then anything else. And thats what really bothers me. Just because one isn't wearing a ring, doesn't mean they're not in a loving committed relationship. If you don't know the person, don't judge. I don't apprechate being asked ever so bodly, if my baby's father is involved or not, simply because I don't have my ring on, and i'm young.

My mini vent

[babyn2]

If the guy asks you to pick out your ring that is a different story. I know people who went and made sure their men got the "right" rings. The bugs the crap out of me. How can you say that it is all about the committment when you are there to make sure you have your "up to par" ring.

And I still have the double heart ring my dh gave me in high school, and I too would be devestated if I lost it. I am actually considering taking the ankle bracelet he got me (my first valentine's gift!) and having it tattooed on my ankle. It is not flashy or showy, it just represents us, in the beginning, and that is what I love about it.

I have a beautiful “rock” on my engagement ring. I wear it for myself. I like to see it. I am not a big jewelry girl, but there is something about this beautiful ring. It is perfect for me, just as my hubby is perfect for me. He picked it out 2 months after we met, and really took a lot of time to find a ring he thought I would like, that had the quality he wanted. He put a lot of time effort and not to mention money on this ring, it is very important to me. I will always wear it.

[#5in2005]

I wear my wedding rings, because I like them. Before I go out I always put on my rings and earrings, I feel naked without them.

Dh hooked his ring on a door years ago, since then he can't wear it, it's so bent out of shape. He doesn't want a new one, he doesn't want to lose his finger, and he says he'll just forget to put it on (and he will).

So dh never wears his, doesn't bother me at all.

As for looking at other peoples hands to see if they're wearing wedding rings, I have to say, I do that all the time. Not just pregnant ladies (and I don't get why people judge, often you don't fit your wedding rings because of swelling), but people in general.

[Isabellamom]

My husband and I haven't taken ours off except to have them cleaned and inspected (part of the warranty). We aren't big on symbols, but our rings are one of the few that we have.

[Jen25]

If the guy asks you to pick out your ring that is a different story. I know people who went and made sure their men got the "right" rings. The bugs the crap out of me. How can you say that it is all about the committment when you are there to make sure you have your "up to par" ring.[/b]

Oh, ok. I see what you are saying. Yeah, that is a little off.

[babyn2]

I always forget that I am typing and no one is around to read my mind and that I should be more detailed!

[beck12]

I answered "other". I usually wear it - but not always & sometimes it is just a mood thing. I used to do massage therapy for aliving (now it's jsut a side thing) - and I had to take it off so much for work, I hardly wore it & soemtimes I would forget about it completely for weeks. I do like jewelry of ALL kinds. I don't like gold for myself, but anything in silver tones is good to me...I love glass beads, silver bangles, beautiful antique looking broaches, etc..... I do adore my wedding ring. Unlike what many may think of a large ring - I find mine to be mostly embarassing at times. Sometimes people make such a big deal about it - or they act like they are embarassed of theirs. That isn't the point. Dh bought me a lovely ring that he thought looked like something I would love (and it is) - it is old fashioned looking & one of a kind, so he had to have the wedding bands made for it - it looks very art deco.

Often times I wish it was less bling simply because people assume all kinds of things about us sometimes based on that alone...just as I imagine they do when you have a simple band or none at all. People assume no matter what I guess. I do think it is beautiful & I would be happy to wear it forever & have no one ever make another comment on it or an ssumption about it.

BTW - he proposed with a $2 rhinestone ring he bought at a five & dime. He said he was nervous I wouldn't say yes. wuss...lol. We had already been together for over 8 yrs- did he think I would decide that was the time to run? After I said yes...I believe I got the real ring in about 2 weeks.

I answered other because I usually wear them when I go out. Or atleast I try to remember lol But at home I am changing to many diapers and Isaiah doesnt like his poor bum scratched!

isnt the standard for engagment rings 3 months salary? I got nothing near that lol I always say I want it upgraded to 2+ carats our 5 year anniversary but I am just joking! kinda lol