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December 31st, 2006, 11:36 AM
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On another board a woman said she thought less of someone (meaning skanky, slutty, loose, etc) because she was shaved downstairs. I personally don't understand how the 2 are connected. Maybe that's because I'm from CA where just about all women are either bald or shaved into shape. What are your opinions?
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December 31st, 2006, 11:40 AM
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oh wow really, guess I'm a skank. I wonder what the basis is of that opinion is?
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December 31st, 2006, 11:43 AM
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I dont think because you are shaved or well groomed that makes you slutty.. Some people just dont like to be all hairy and natural downstairs and I for one totally agree there.. I think its more comfortable being well groomed.. Just because someone shaves or waxes it doesnt make them a porn star or a big s|ut..
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December 31st, 2006, 12:31 PM
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hmm, I would think that it would be viewed as nasty the other way around. If someone wasn't groomed "down there", I dunno...THAT would seem a bit disgusting. I guess to me being well groomed equates cleanliness.
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December 31st, 2006, 01:56 PM
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LOL! Oh my! I can't believe someone would say that. I think it's personal preference and whatever each person is comfortable with. I think some individuals are still under the impression that shaving your pubic hair is sexual and that's not the case for most people.
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December 31st, 2006, 02:43 PM
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hmm, I would think that it would be viewed as nasty the other way around. If someone wasn't groomed "down there", I dunno...THAT would seem a bit disgusting. I guess to me being well groomed equates cleanliness.[/b]
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I shave cause I hate hair. Anywhere, cept my head. I've pulled more PH than I care to again with things like...sex and ...tampons. Sorry for TMI. But for me, no hair means no fuss!
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December 31st, 2006, 02:51 PM
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I shave cause I hate hair. Anywhere, cept my head. I've pulled more PH than I care to again with things like...sex and ...tampons. Sorry for TMI. But for me, no hair means no fuss![/b]

Yes! I hate that! Nothing is worse than getting a PH stuck in a tampon or in the sticky part of a pad! YIKES! I don't shave all but I definately "trim things up every few weeks" to prevent that.

P.S. Am I the only immature person that found the irony of this topic being posted in the "Fluffy Stuff" room?
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December 31st, 2006, 02:55 PM
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I shave cause I hate hair. Anywhere, cept my head. I've pulled more PH than I care to again with things like...sex and ...tampons. Sorry for TMI. But for me, no hair means no fuss![/b]

Yes! I hate that! Nothing is worse than getting a PH stuck in a tampon or in the sticky part of a pad! YIKES! I don't shave all but I definately "trim things up every few weeks" to prevent that.

P.S. Am I the only immature person that found the irony of this topic being posted in the "Fluffy Stuff" room?
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Um thanks for pointing that out bit of irony
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December 31st, 2006, 03:15 PM
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I don't shave all but I definately "trim things up every few weeks" to prevent that.[/b]
Funny story. The other day, I was sitting on the toilet, trimming, and ds walked in. He asked what I was doing and I said "giving myself a haircut." Now everytime he sees me going to the bathroom he asks "mommy-haircut?" LMAO.

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P.S. Am I the only immature person that found the irony of this topic being posted in the "Fluffy Stuff" room?[/b]
Ummm...hadn't noticed. Thanks for that
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December 31st, 2006, 03:24 PM
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I think that was incredibly rude of her. Body hair, or lack thereof, is a really ridiculous thing to base sexual promiscuity on. Does she also believe big breasts make you a ****/#####/skank? Because they don't.

I get rid of nearly all body hair. Two reasons:
One - old habit from swim team. which turned into...
Two - I cannot STAND body hair on myself. It feels funny to me. If I have it, my skin gets irritated and chafed and itchy. I don't like the sensation it gives me at all. Therefore, it ALL must go.
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December 31st, 2006, 04:50 PM
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Now see - I personally don't like to see it called "well groomed" - as it implies that if you don' ttrim, shave, shape, etc - that in fact ther eis no grooming.

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1. To care for the appearance of; to make neat and trim: groomed himself carefully in front of the mirror.
2. To clean and brush (an animal).
3. To remove dirt and parasites from the skin, fur, or feathers of (another animal).
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5. Sports To prepare (a trail) for skiers, as by packing down new snow or leveling moguls.[/b]
While grooming can me altering in appearance - being well groomed is really more about cleanliness than altering appearance. I personally am a very natural person. I cannot for the life of me understnad the obsession with women & shaving. I like who I am naturally & I feel good & sexy just as nature made me. I do shave at times for specific events as it is culturally sensitive of me to do so - IMO. But left to my own I would never do it & I hate that people think it is equal to hygiene. Hygiene is cleaning ones self - removing hair is removing hair. I have tried shaving clean & it completely grossed me out. It just did, I looked like a little girl. I like my PH - and I don't even mind the rest of it either. To me it is part of maturing & being an adult woman. If others want to do it - more power to them, I really don't care - but I hate that people that feel great naturally are seen as somehow less clean. I can't understand that thinking. I also hate that my nieces shaved clean from the time they grew PH...it soemhow to me seems to be a rejection of yourself & women's natural beauty. How come men don't shave & it's not seen as gross? (and yes I know some men do, Dh tried it for a while & I told him it was icky & I hated it ).
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December 31st, 2006, 05:07 PM
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How come men don't shave & it's not seen as gross? (and yes I know some men do, Dh tried it for a while & I told him it was icky & I hated it ).[/b]


I think body hair is percieved as masculine. Which I feel is stupid. We are all human and our bodies all have hair for a reason. I used to shave it all off down there but i never liked it. I did it because I thought thats how people thought it should look. i didnt want to be thought of as gross or dirty. Now i just tidy it up, I will never go back to the pre-pubescent look!
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December 31st, 2006, 05:48 PM
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I personally cannot handle men without body hair. It just isn't attractive to me. I like my men chunky and hairy.

I have no issue with people who choose to go natural, and I honestly don't think it's a "hygiene" issue. That quote from a pp about it being yucky really irritated me, but I couldn't think of anything to say.

I remove my hair because of sensory issues. Always have, ever since it grown in. It just bothers my skin.

I do get offended when, on other "crunchy" mom boards, it's suggested that I do it to please a man. Not quite. DH has been asking me to grow out the "carpet" for nearly as long as we've known each other; he prefers it that way. I won't do it. It honestly drives me insane. And I take just as much issue with growing it out for a man than I would with shaving it off for a man.

As far as pubic hair, it's there for a reason. One theory is that PH traps the natural pheremones which attract a mate, or if we already have a mate, to subliminally influence his/her sexual appetite. Another scientific theory is that we subconsciously are attracted to a person's natural pheremones; that they indicate good health and a good match for reproduction as far as genes go.
I guess this could be why I absolutely LOVE the smell of my husband's armpits after he's worked all day. It smells GOOD to me, not stinky. He says the same about mine. Smell is a major theory regarding "the beauty theory" as well as compatibility in a partner; and logic stands to show that was the purpose of PH.

There is nothing "nasty" or "gross" about PH. I personally don't care for it, it makes me insane, but to imply that someone WITH pubic hair is, to quote a pp, "disgusting", and to equate it to cleanliness, is JUST as ridiculous to equate the lack of pubic hair with sexual activity.
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December 31st, 2006, 06:58 PM
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There is nothing "nasty" or "gross" about PH. I personally don't care for it, it makes me insane, but to imply that someone WITH pubic hair is, to quote a pp, "disgusting", and to equate it to cleanliness, is JUST as ridiculous to equate the lack of pubic hair with sexual activity.[/b]
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To clarify my pp, I didn't say having pubic hair was disgusting. I said that if anything I would first see having "un-groomed" hair down there as unclean before I would say having no hair is unclean. And by un-groomed I don't mean shaved. I rarely completely shave, but I do tidy up. It DOES make me feel cleaner. Especially around my period, I don't like the blood getting all gunked up in it (tmi?). I would NEVER say that someone unshaved is unclean. To ME it feels cleaner being trimmed or shaved. Thats all.
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Someone brought this up; what do you think about young girls shaving down there and removing all of their PH? If it was your daughter, would there be an age where you would say she is too young to do that?
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Someone brought this up; what do you think about young girls shaving down there and removing all of their PH? If it was your daughter, would there be an age where you would say she is too young to do that?[/b]

I wouldn't care. It's a personal preference. I don't trim or shave for my husband, I do it because it makes me feel cleaner (and I'm NOT saying it's dirty if you don't...).
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January 1st, 2007, 10:41 AM
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I always shave it alllllllllllllllllllll off . I have ever since I was like 13 . I can't stand it , it's itchy and just gross .

If my daughter chooses to do so then that's her choice . If it makes her more comfortable than why not ?

I think it's ridiculous that some people feel that it's "slutty" or "skanky" .
Why is that ? Because porn stars are usually shaved ?
Ya , so is the majority of the population .
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