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January 18th, 2007, 09:52 AM
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Would you be more upset if you found out your child was a bully or being mean to other kids or being bullied by another kid? I know both would be upsetting, but which one would disturb you more?
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January 18th, 2007, 10:10 AM
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I think I would be more angry if my kid was being a bully, and more upset if he was being bullied. If he is doing the bulling than I can do something to stop that, if he is being bullied I would feel so completely helpless.
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January 18th, 2007, 11:58 AM
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Logically, I think I would be more upset if my child was being a bully. I would hate to think of my child purposely hurting someone else.

My heart says that I would be more upset if my child was being bullied
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January 18th, 2007, 12:38 PM
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Unfortunately I can already see the "bully" in my child. He's too young to know it, but he's already been permanently "moved" to the toddler room at his daycare for "picking on the babies"!!! He's just a rough boy (and he's letting his personality roam, which I don't restrict too much at home) and not necessarily "hurting" anyone. But he is rough.

That said, he WILL NOT be a bully in school. When he's old enough to understand. Either way I'd feel bad. If he's the bully...I would feel bad for the kids he's tormenting. If he's being bullied...I'd feel bad that my baby is being picked on.
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January 18th, 2007, 04:47 PM
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Considering I was a nerd once I would be highly PISSED if one of my children was a bully in school. Picking on others b/c they are different is one thing I will NEVER tolerate. My step-sis is becoming one of those cliquey mini-Paris Hilton girls, and she is only 9. She's already been in trouble for bullying twice this year, and her real mom doesn't even do anything about it.
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January 18th, 2007, 11:15 PM
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I'd be mad and really upset if my DD was the victim, because it was nothing I could really do anything about. If she were the bully, I could at least correct her in her ways.
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January 18th, 2007, 11:20 PM
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If she was the bully: I would be livid... I was never bullied in school... had to many boy cousins...
IF she was being bullied... I would be livid
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January 19th, 2007, 01:20 AM
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As a victim of being bullied at school; i would be livid if my child was the school bully, it would make me so angry knowing he/she was purposely hurting other people just because he/she wanted to have that power or have others "fear them"

Again, i would be livid if my child was the victim of a bully; like i said i was picked on at school and i know how it feels so i would never want my child to be hurt by another person. It would break my heart.
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January 19th, 2007, 07:48 AM
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I think I would be sad if my child was being bullied because most of my elementary years and the first part of junior high I was picked on a lot. I was 5'7" in the 6th grade and I was very very thin so I got made fun of a lot, so I guess my heart would go out to her. However, if she was the one bullying I would probably be very angry and even more so disappointed. I guess I would feel that I wasn't teaching her right or something. At least I could try to correct it though.
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January 19th, 2007, 10:44 AM
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That is a really hard question! Of course I hope that my kids are well liked as well as very nice to everyone!


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Logically, I think I would be more upset if my child was being a bully. I would hate to think of my child purposely hurting someone else.

My heart says that I would be more upset if my child was being bullied[/b]
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January 20th, 2007, 10:36 AM
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I think I might be equally upset either way & blame myself a little. I have been bullied & I really do think my parents could have taight me a thing or two about handling that kind of confrontation & that would have lessened it. I hope I can teach my children how to stand up for themselves & for others & to never ridicule anyone.
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January 23rd, 2007, 07:17 PM
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Would you be more upset if you found out your child was a bully or being mean to other kids or being bullied by another kid? I know both would be upsetting, but which one would disturb you more?[/b]
Shamefully, I would be more upset about them being a victim. I think both are totally wrong, but I know how I was when I was little and how DH was when he was little.. So if my kid was a bully, I would understand it better because both DH and I did it. If my child was a victim, I would see it as the worse of the two because I would know their self-confidence, and self-eestem isn't even close to where it should be. I actually have really been worried about this in real life and hope I raise more of a referee.
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January 24th, 2007, 12:35 PM
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I think I would be more angry if my kid was being a bully, and more upset if he was being bullied. If he is doing the bulling than I can do something to stop that, if he is being bullied I would feel so completely helpless.[/b]
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January 24th, 2007, 03:57 PM
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I would be mad if Dominic (or any future children for that matter) were bullying, and sad if they were getting bullied. This is a tough question because I would hate to think of either happening!
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