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By replying you ladies are narrowing down the field for me....although I'm 99% sure of who did the "talking". And I have a disclaimer to the person I'm privately thinking of...you can't yell at me cause I've not mentioned your name to anyone. So ha! And for the record, Tiff, no one talked smack while I was there, but I did turn in early around 1 a.m. (I paid for that today too...I's be tired).
me too! did something leak? oh man.. dont tell me im gonna have to start watching what i say in there too..
my tourette's has really cleared up since being on chat.. i dont wanna go back to having probs again
Nothing bad or wrong was said. I apparently said something that I was unaware was not "allowed". I got a PM (a very courteous and polite PM just for the record) about it. The only thing that ticked me off was the person who pm'd me...was NOT in chat last night. I don't go out of my way to pm people with the latest she said this/that crap. In fact the only person I've asked a drama question (one time I might add) in private to was Laura and it was about a person who's feelings got hurt and they left the debate boards, nothing nasty was said just a simple...so and so left? yep..that sucks...yep. Yes, I've been a bit miffed this evening but this just brought back 1996 for me in a Hellish sort of way (senior year of H.S.).
OKAY, Again, I am the one!
I addressed this in the other thread, I don't know why two have been started over this issue, but I feel compelled to defend myself here as well. The conversation happened, I said something about saying her name, she asked me not to use her real name. I told her, that Faith knew it too, so I didn't really think much about it. She asked if it would bother me if she PMed you, I told her absolutely not. She read the PM to me, it was a polite and non confrontational request. I am really bothered by the fact that there are two threads concerning, what I believed to be a very minor matter, seeming to want to villify me for something that was said in innocent conversation without any malicious intent.
You had to know with 100% certainty, and I knew it would be obvious when she sent the PM, that it would be me that had said something. I stated in that conversation that I was friends with her. The whole basis of the conversation with her, that led to telling her I had said her name, was just me saying her that several of us had wanted her to be in chat and she was going to have to join us one night. Once she asked me to not mention her name again, and I was aware of her not wanting people to know, I apologized.
I just really didn't think it would develop into such a big deal. It was an innocent conversation, the request was stated politely, no one was mad, hurt, angry or upset over the issue. I just think it has been blown way out of proportion when people are suddenly worried and scared about what might or might not have been revealed from chat, because I accidentally said someones name and I told them what I did. I told on myself, I didn't tell on anyone else. I didn't reveal any conversation, I revealed a name.
I started the two threads last night within a few minutes of each other. When Jess wanted to know what was going on, I re-directed her to that thread because the last post (at the time) told the whole story. I suppose I could have combined the two, just didn't think about it at the time.
I guess I'm just confused as to why two topics were started on something that could have easily been resolved through PMs, and topics that were started as the result of PM, especially when they've mostly served to make some who were clearly enjoying the chat room feel uncomfortable about what they said/or may say.
I feel like this is something that didn't really need to affect the community as a whole and has mostly caused confusion and some suspicion.
I'm as confused as most about why these topics are even here.
I typed up 3 different responses and each one, no matter how I would have worded it would have been shredded. So, I just really have no politically correct answer for you. If I type what I really feel, I'll be blasted and if I type what you all want to hear, I'll be the roll over wimp that I'm not.
I typed up 3 different responses and each one, no matter how I would have worded it would have been shredded. So, I just really have no politically correct answer for you. If I type what I really feel, I'll be blasted and if I type what you all want to hear, I'll be the roll over wimp that I'm not.[/b]
I'm not exactly sure what it is that you believe I (or anyone else for that matter) really want to hear. I'm still confused as to why this had to be the impetus for two different threads when it could have easily been contained to PMs and not affected the flow or confidence of the debate board community as a whole.
Again, if you felt that my request to respect my desire for privacy and anonymity on a public message board was somehow a violation of your trust or privacy from your chat room discussions, then I do apologize. I'm not now, nor was I yesterday, privy to the content or context of the discussion and so I am completely at a loss to understand the overall reaction to a simple repeated request to understand my desire for privacy and that no personally identifying information about myself or my family be shared. I understand, now more than ever, that you find my request paranoid and over the top, but it is what my comfort level on a publicly accessed board is, and I can't change that.
No one told me anything that you may or may not have said other than the fact that you also (which I was aware of) knew my first name. I know that when we initially had our conversations through PMs and emails that I did tell you that I was uncomfortable with that information being shared with the community. It was merely a polite request to remind you how I felt about it and ask that you respect that. Not that it wasn't "allowed". I feel that you've felt gossiped about, or attacked in some way when that simply wasn't the case, and by either responding to my PM or PMing Stacey could have cleared that all up for you without the need to drag the entire community into the problem.
I'm left to wonder if there was something else that was shared that you are concerned about what might have been shared based upon the reaction, the jokes and the overall tones of your posts on the two threads. Quite honestly, I am a tad bit offended that you would so blithely disregard my feelings on the matter when I had, in a previous conversation with you, shared my feelings on not wishing any of my identifying information be shared. If there was more to the conversation in regards to me that you are concerned StaceyC "leaked" to me, let me reassure you. No PMs were exchanged about you. No real conversation was had about you or what you said. StaceyC didn't tell me anything about the chat threads except that "some" posters asked her to tell me to come to chat and the fact that she and you both used my first name in the room. If you feel that your privacy was violated on the basis of my PM politely reminding you about my wishes for privacy then I apologize. If you feel attacked because you didn't use my name and so therefore feel that you've been falsely accused, then again, I apologize. Which if that was the case, I'm left to wonder why you didn't respond to my PM in the beginning.
I still fail to see how my wishes for privacy (which, quite honestly are in line with JMs TOS) are a matter of concern to the board as a whole.
I don't know what you think I want to hear from you, or what anyone wants to hear from you, but now that it IS public and I've felt the need to defend myself against comments made, I did wonder why and how it got to this point in the first place.
That was a great novel you just posted. It must be the cold meds I'm on because my head is spinning. For the record, I do remember now, you saying to use an alias when referring to you on here, but silly me cannot remember it. I'm pretty horrible with names at first but when I was cleaning out my email a few days before the chat, I saw your name. Guess that's why it stuck in my head. Sorry you are upset, offended or whatever emotions you are feeling at this moment. Peace out!