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TeresaSuperMama December 14th, 2009 11:14 AM

Are you planning to tell friends and family that you are doing a home birth?
 
I haven't made up my mind yet whether I am keeping this to myself or sharing. Not really interested in hearing people's two cents on it. I have told a few people, but I may just keep it to myself for everyone else. We'll see.

Kelllilee December 14th, 2009 11:16 AM

Re: Are you planning to tell friends and family that you are doing a home birth?
 
I was very open about it. Told anyone who asked. I didn't really get much negative feedback, more curiosity and questions. The couple people who were somewhat negative weren't really outspoken about it.

Twinkle December 14th, 2009 11:20 AM

Re: Are you planning to tell friends and family that you are doing a home birth?
 
I don't hide it, but there are certain people I don't volunteer the information to. I have found that this second time around, I am much much more open about it than I was before.

lhug_nar December 14th, 2009 11:20 AM

Re: Are you planning to tell friends and family that you are doing a home birth?
 
We basically told everyone that we're doing a home birth. There's been a lot of negativity from my IL's and mother but my dad and sisters are totally cool about it.

jhmomofmany December 14th, 2009 11:31 AM

Re: Are you planning to tell friends and family that you are doing a home birth?
 
I tell anyone who will listen, LOL! I'm careful about what I say to preggo ladies, b/c from past experience, talking about homebirthing with a mom planning a hospital birth can make them feel like you are being critical. But none of my family is real supportive of homebirth, so I end up talking about/defending it quite a bit.

Alison79 December 14th, 2009 12:35 PM

Re: Are you planning to tell friends and family that you are doing a home birth?
 
Since this is our 3rd home birth everyone pretty much already knows. My close friends are supportive and many have had home births themselves so that helps. My Mom was a little worried for the first home birth but she was here when Reid was born and now she is all for it.

inyourhonor December 14th, 2009 01:00 PM

Re: Are you planning to tell friends and family that you are doing a home birth?
 
I did and honestly at times wish I hadn't, but i wasn't going to lie when asked. Since my first was an "emergency" c-section, I got a lot of the "So are you going to have a repeat?" questions and would rather just be up front that we were planning an HBAC. I had a lot of negativity from family, mainly over concern for me then the actual home birth itself. My MIL I guess was upset about it but my SIL kept her quiet about it. I was open to discussing it when asked after we told them. I was expecting negativity even though it did bite.

HappyHippy December 14th, 2009 02:28 PM

Re: Are you planning to tell friends and family that you are doing a home birth?
 
I'm open about it, every one knows of our plans. No one has said anything bad about it, and remaining confident in our decision helps a lot.

flamingpeachfish December 14th, 2009 03:29 PM

Re: Are you planning to tell friends and family that you are doing a home birth?
 
With the first, it was a lot worse. My mom was freaked out, but at least willing to hear about it, and by the time we had Rowan she was very supportive. Dh's family was terrified, but at least had the decency to allow us to make our own decision. The worst came from my "best friend" and neighbor, who decided that what I was doing was dangerous. I showed her the same research that I'd shown everyone else who asked, but she told me that she'd done her own research and by choosing to have my kid at home I was automatically this awful parent, and if I went through with it she'd have no choice but to call CPS. I told her that was fine if that's what she felt she had to do, and unfortunately that was the last time we spoke... It was weird.

I think a lot of people I know came around after my son's birth went so well. And now with this one, everyone knows that I'd rather have my babies in an alligator pit than go to the hospital, and they seem to humor my "eccentricity".

I do still get people that say weird things- they just don't quite get it, but it's rarely bothersome. Just kind of funny.

Twhylite21 December 14th, 2009 04:43 PM

Re: Are you planning to tell friends and family that you are doing a home birth?
 
We've told my parents (they live with us), my sister, and a few of DH's sisters. Plus, a few friends and other family.

I'm pretty sure that most members of my family would freak out if they knew so I'm not planning to say anything to them unless they ask. I do plan to let everyone know after the fact though as kind of a "I told you it was fine" thing.

flitabout December 14th, 2009 05:31 PM

Re: Are you planning to tell friends and family that you are doing a home birth?
 
I am being very selective as to who I am telling that I doing a homebirth. I didn't get the best reception when I told my sister in law. But you can bet you butt I will be telling everybody I did it when it is over!

TeresaSuperMama December 14th, 2009 07:14 PM

Re: Are you planning to tell friends and family that you are doing a home birth?
 
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Originally Posted by flitabout (Post 18310336)
I am being very selective as to who I am telling that I doing a homebirth. I didn't get the best reception when I told my sister in law. But you can bet you butt I will be telling everybody I did it when it is over!

That is kind of how I am feeling. I am afraid with dh barely being on board that if I mention the homebirth to the wrong person that they will just wind up pressing dh for me not to do it. I figure once I am done then I can blab it to the world.

PixieQueen December 14th, 2009 08:44 PM

Re: Are you planning to tell friends and family that you are doing a home birth?
 
I told pretty much everyone. I didn't get too much negativity about it.

WishingStar December 15th, 2009 07:20 AM

Re: Are you planning to tell friends and family that you are doing a home birth?
 
I've told anybody who asks. Mostly I get "Really?" or "You're brave. I couldn't do that". There hasn't been a whole lot of negativity yet. I'm thankful for that.

CameraLinds December 15th, 2009 08:49 AM

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I told everyone. I wanted to share what we were doing and why. I was happy/excited to have done the research and pick the best choice/birth option for us. Thankfully we didn't get much harsh comments!

Owl December 16th, 2009 09:22 AM

Re: Are you planning to tell friends and family that you are doing a home birth?
 
I know that certain people will flip. I have pre-e w/ my first and I know that will be brought up. I guess I will have to have some info ready to share with them (people like my parents/grandparents, not just any stranger :lol: ).

~Jackie December 16th, 2009 09:33 AM

Re: Are you planning to tell friends and family that you are doing a home birth?
 
I wasn't volunteering information but I didn't hide it. When people would look at me flabergasted I would look at them the same way for them thinking that I was crazy for wanting to do a homebirth.... tried to switch the tables around. I'd just give vague information, "oh it's safer", "why not?... lol".. small things like that. My sister was skeptical but I didn't divulge in all the details because she is the opposite of me when it comes to childbirth and rearing kids.


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