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RhiettaP January 16th, 2014 11:09 AM

Blah...baby is a boy
 
I'm so disappointed. This is my last baby and I really wanted a girl. I just have to remember that God's plan is not the same as my plan.

I don't even have any boys names that I like.....like seriously NONE. If I knew that this baby was going to be a boy, I never would have gotten pregnant again - I know that is ugly to say...but right now...it's how I feel.

colette20 January 16th, 2014 11:21 AM

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:( Sorry you're disappointed...

It's perfectly ok to feel how you feel right now. Someday you will have a hard time imagining life without him, an this is just how the emotionally journey starts sometimes...

I won't lie... if this LO is a girl, I will probably feel pretty crappy about it too for a while. Doesn't mean I'll love her any less in the long run... but its ok to not feel over the moon elated all the time as a mom, and we shouldn't have to feel guilty about that.

VallyD January 16th, 2014 11:36 AM

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If this one turns out to be a boy, I will be posting probably the exact same thing. My entire family/friends are also calling it "her" and husband keeps referring to it with our girl name and its going to be really really ****** if they are all wrong. It's fine to feel this way, I felt like this with my first. In time you will grow into it but now you are allowed to be disappointed. *Hugs*

ZeeWP January 16th, 2014 12:03 PM

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:::hugs::: You are allowed to be disappointed. I can understand that feeling. Anyone who says otherwise should get smacked. You can't control how you feel, just your actions.

casslou1 January 16th, 2014 12:08 PM

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I'm sorry you're disappointed. I hope that as your pregnancy progresses and you get to know you little boy more, that you will feel better. *hugs*

Alison79 January 16th, 2014 12:25 PM

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I'm sorry you aren't having a girl as you had hoped. It is hard to accept things we have no control over. I know you will come to love your little guy.

RhiettaP January 16th, 2014 12:34 PM

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I know once he's here, I won't be able to imagine life with out him...I was just so set on a girl (like I had some sort of choice....).

Wonder what will my husband will say if I don't get my tubes tied;)

rachoochoo2 January 16th, 2014 01:00 PM

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This is our last baby probably and I know I am going to deal with some disappointment if we never get our boy.

Valley83 January 16th, 2014 01:17 PM

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I am sorry that you are disappointed. When my cousin found out that she was having a boy she felt the same way that you feel right now, she also said that if she would've known then she wouldn't have gotten pregnant. She said it took a little for that feeling to go away, and once he was born she couldn't imagine her life without him.

Bluesstarz2 January 16th, 2014 01:36 PM

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Sorry for the disappointment. Makes sense that you aren't too happy since it is the last baby. *hugs*

mstee511 January 16th, 2014 01:45 PM

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I know I will be just as disappointed if I go tomorrow and find out I'm having a boy. Of course BF will be super stoked. But I will not be a happy camper.

There is a such thing as Gender Disappointment though, so don't worry, its ok. I'm sure in time it will pass.

mommy2skyty January 16th, 2014 02:59 PM

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just lurking around but I wanted to comment on how you are feeling! First of all gender disappointment is a real thing and you shouldn't feel bad for the way you are feeling right now. I have a boy and a girl and I was going to wait until birth to find out the gender of our 3rd baby but I knew if I did that I would have gender disappointment if it was a boy because I really wanted another girl! So at 16 weeks I made an appointment to find out the gender and found out that I was having another boy! I must admit I was surprised because I thought I was having a girl based on my symptoms and heart rate. So when I saw boy parts I was kind of disappointed. I was with my older kids and when I got to the car I cried and I felt guilty for feeing the way I did. It took me a few days to really come to terms with having another boy and I started thinking of all the exciting things like keeping my sons clothing and toys and my boys being good buddies and sharing a room, because my daughter wanted her own princess room she was happy. I stopped looking at girly clothes and just accepted that fact that I would have another boy and that he was healthy and that was all that mattered. Fast forward to now he is 5 months old and I just love my little guy soo much and don't ever wish that he was a girl :) ok sorry that was a little long...
I hope with time you are able to accept that you will have another boy and that your daughter will be the princess!

AlanaIris January 16th, 2014 03:40 PM

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I totally know how you feel. With my youngest, we were told he was a girl at 18wks only to find out he was a boy 2.5wks later. We had a name and lots of girl clothes in that 2.5wks and I was so sad for a couple weeks afterwards. I cried and cried and even said I didn't want another boy. It's totally okay to feel like that. But once he was born, I couldn't imagine not having 3 boys. I'm sure you'll feel the same about your little guy.
I will be a little disappointed if this one ends up being a boy as well, because I won't ever get a girl then since this is our last baby. That is one of the reasons we are team green this time. I think it'd be a lot harder to be sad with a cute new baby in my arms. =)

Sweet_Mama January 16th, 2014 06:52 PM

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I had gender disappointment with my second so bad.. it actually lasted til after he was born. When I had my third I was a little sad but happy too cuz I knew he would be a sweet boy and he is the best baby ever and is the only one that looks just like me. At least u get to experience raising one girl :) I'm thinking this next one is a boy again but ah well. I just keep my throne lol

Lav January 16th, 2014 07:22 PM

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It's totally okay to feel the way you do. I have not had this disappointment yet, but I felt something similar: such a relief when I found out my first baby was going to be a girl---the girl I'd always wanted! Now we're hoping for a boy, but we feel that it's okay if it turns out to be another girl. We're staying team green though for as long as I can take the suspense.

Hugs to you. Don't feel guilty about how you feel. You'll love him so much, you'll see.

MamaT3blessings January 16th, 2014 07:50 PM

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Why does no one want boys?? lol. They're awesome!!! Silly, dirty, loud little bundles of fun!! They are cheaper too :) It's funny that for the most part, gender disappointment is always with boys!

colette20 January 16th, 2014 09:14 PM

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Originally Posted by MamaT3blessings (Post 27910252)
Why does no one want boys?? lol. They're awesome!!! Silly, dirty, loud little bundles of fun!! They are cheaper too :) It's funny that for the most part, gender disappointment is always with boys!

I want a boy!! Team blues vibes demanded over here.... lol.

I think most women want daughters the way men want sons... we're usually more diplomatic about it outwardly ("I dont care as long as it's healthy....") but we all are totally leaning one way or another... lol

MamaT3blessings January 16th, 2014 09:24 PM

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Originally Posted by colette20 (Post 27910381)
I want a boy!! Team blues vibes demanded over here.... lol.

I think most women want daughters the way men want sons... we're usually more diplomatic about it outwardly ("I dont care as long as it's healthy....") but we all are totally leaning one way or another... lol


I know! DH would be perfectly content if we had all boys, lol.

rachoochoo2 January 16th, 2014 09:26 PM

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Originally Posted by MamaT3blessings (Post 27910252)
Why does no one want boys?? lol. They're awesome!!! Silly, dirty, loud little bundles of fun!! They are cheaper too :) It's funny that for the most part, gender disappointment is always with boys!

I want one!

colette20 January 16th, 2014 09:30 PM

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Originally Posted by MamaT3blessings (Post 27910398)
I know! DH would be perfectly content if we had all boys, lol.

Im with him!! I would LOVE having all boys!! :bluecheer:


We do seem to have a lot of team pink wishers though I've noticed.... So you all take my team pink vibes, I'll take all your blues! ;)


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