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MamaSkunk August 9th, 2013 09:40 AM

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A nephew! He was technically born the beginning of May but my brother just got the DNA test back that he is the father of an adorable little boy named Wyatt. (My bro apparently didn't wrap it during a one-nighter) This is the first child out of any of my bros so I haven't been an aunt before (well I don't count my BILs kids not really...they are weird extremely religious cult types that are not normal lol)
Anyway I am just so excited about my new nephew! (Also if anyone has any tips on what my bro can do to ensure getting partial custody so he can see his son would be helpful as the mom just went after my bro for child support and my bro didn't even know about Wyatt til he was almost a month old)

ashleykathleen August 9th, 2013 10:45 AM

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I just had a very good friend deal with a similar situation. As long as he has a DNA test to prove paternity and he actually wants some sort of custody, he should have no problem. He needs an attorney for sure. It's very rare for the courts to deny any sort of visitation to parents who want to be involved unless the other party can actually prove that he would be a danger to the baby.

4hearts August 9th, 2013 04:37 PM

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GL to your bro. I believe in father's rights and it's awesome that he wants to be involved in his son's life. And the mom is craptastic for waiting to tell him about Wyatt. :rolleyes:

loveneverfails August 9th, 2013 06:00 PM

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Congrats on the nephew. Your brother needs and attorney and document EVERYTHING.

If he can save all texts, e-mails, and document (but not record) phone calls as in times and what was talked about. Keep a handwritten journal of communications and times that he sees the baby. It may not be much help but for us when it came to court time for SS we had all the times we had him for the previous two years. When she tried to say DH wasn't involved we were able to prove that he had been and asked, actually begged, her for more time with SS. It helps to be able to prove he has tried to be involved.

sunnydaze August 9th, 2013 07:04 PM

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I wouldn't hate on the mom, maybe she was just doing what she thought was best. And when they make the child support order, they can also work out visitation as well.

Most women want their kids to have their dad in their lives. So chances are, shes not going to "fight"....especially if he seems to open and willing and happy to be a dad.

Sorry, its just that when Alex was born, his dad didn't want anything to do with him, and I would of given anything for his dad to show any kind of want for visitation, but he never did.

I guess this hits a little too close to home.

I'm very happy for you and I hope you are able to have a loving and close relationship with your nephew.

MamaSkunk August 9th, 2013 11:07 PM

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Originally Posted by sunnydaze (Post 27576864)
I wouldn't hate on the mom, maybe she was just doing what she thought was best. And when they make the child support order, they can also work out visitation as well.

Most women want their kids to have their dad in their lives. So chances are, shes not going to "fight"....especially if he seems to open and willing and happy to be a dad.

Sorry, its just that when Alex was born, his dad didn't want anything to do with him, and I would of given anything for his dad to show any kind of want for visitation, but he never did.

I guess this hits a little too close to home.

I'm very happy for you and I hope you are able to have a loving and close relationship with your nephew.

Oh I'm not hating on her. I haven't met her yet. I do think it was crappy she waited a month after Wyatt was born to tell my bro. I just told my bro to not just get visitations but to get a court set schedule / partial custody so that way he can never get screwed out of his visitations and if its a consistent set time schedule then his son will not ever be wondering when he will see his dad next. Kids need structure and schedules when it comes to that. Also it will cover his butt in case the mom ever flakes out.


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