JustMommies Message Boards

JustMommies Message Boards (http://www.justmommies.com/forums/)
-   The Mommy Lounge (http://www.justmommies.com/forums/f28-mommy-lounge/)
-   -   Nighttime:Do you REALLY not hear the baby????? (http://www.justmommies.com/forums/f28-mommy-lounge/369825-nighttime-do-you-really-not-hear-baby.html)

850williams November 14th, 2006 08:27 PM

With my first child whos now three, my husband had a million excuses why he didn't get up at night,. First it was "I cant hear her crying" which to me means "I choose to ignore the ear piercing screams 5 ft. away from me so my wife can handle it." Then he got clever and said "You are breastfeeding, whats the point of me getting up when I cant feed her?" which to me means "You are the one feeding her, YOU get up from a dead exhausted sleep and stumble across the room while I stay in bed under the warm covers."
I have another one due in 2 days,and I have to hire a babysitter to come sit at my house at night (WHILE HE'S HERE!) to feed baby while Im working overnights..when I should be getting MY rest.
How many of you guys PRETENDED not to hear the baby cry when you KNEW your wife/gf was exhausted? How do I make him see?
O yea..he can hear his phone ring. He can hear the tv come on AND GO OFF if he's sleeping. He hears the door. He can hear me quietly ask him to scoot over in the middle of the night. BUT HE CANT HEAR THE SCREAMS????

Mommy2LeiahandOwen November 17th, 2006 04:48 AM

HI, I know exactly how you feel, my second child was born a mnth ago and my fiance at first would always hear him cry at night and would get up with him, but now that it has set in and he is older he seems to just ignore his cries until I get up and get him. It is really annoying that they put it all on us... it also annoys me that they use the excuse "Oh i have been at work all day" I sit and think well I have been looking after the a 3 year old and a 1mnth old all day and yet u expect me to get up with them at night too...

So I know how you feel. What I am starting to do is, if its his turn to get up with the baby I will wake him up and tell him to get baby as you are tooo tired etc

850williams November 19th, 2006 05:59 AM

Quote:

HI, I know exactly how you feel, my second child was born a mnth ago and my fiance at first would always hear him cry at night and would get up with him, but now that it has set in and he is older he seems to just ignore his cries until I get up and get him. It is really annoying that they put it all on us... it also annoys me that they use the excuse "Oh i have been at work all day" I sit and think well I have been looking after the a 3 year old and a 1mnth old all day and yet u expect me to get up with them at night too...

So I know how you feel. What I am starting to do is, if its his turn to get up with the baby I will wake him up and tell him to get baby as you are tooo tired etc[/b]

My husband has been helpful pretty much. My lil girl was born a couple days ago ansd hes been supportvie. Thankfully the delivery was very easy and im in no pain. Except for the breast engorgement thing...OOOOWWWW! Anyways, he gets up and gets me water and pillows and stuff if i wake him up.

Shaney3401 November 19th, 2006 07:29 PM

This topic really makes me laugh. My son is now a little over 3 weeks old and the "I can't hear him excuse" is the one he chose to use too!!! We all know it's a bunch of bologni!!! I'm lucky though Colin usually sleeps pretty well, but when he does wake up Robert(dad) gets a pillow to the face or a smack on the back to get up and feed him.

Mommy2jnd November 20th, 2006 12:25 AM

My kids are 2 and 11 months, and my fiance NEVER got up with either. Not ONE time. And he also said he couldn't hear them. Even though, if I didn't hear them at first, I got a strange nudge to wake me up. Huh.

DaddyRobert November 26th, 2006 09:27 PM

It's been a long time since we had babies in our house, but I recall that my wife would wake up at the slightest noise from the babies, long before I'd hear a thing; I honestly think that moms are biologically tuned to that wavelength a lot more than dads are! However, the boss lady made sure I shared the pain; for about half of those late-night feedings she'd whack me in the head with a pillow and ask me to change a diaper and bring the baby to her for feeding!

Mikey November 27th, 2006 11:38 PM

bea's always going on about that. I agree with DLY on this!

Mommy2aPumpkin December 16th, 2006 09:10 PM

Well I have to say my fiance DOES help whenever he can. Some nights he works all night so I am used to gettin up with Noella but when hes home he lets me sleep and he deals with it. Its pretty good because in the mornings I sleep later and hes up with her watching tv. I like that a lot :)

Matt123 January 9th, 2007 09:14 AM

Yeh thats pretty harsh. When youre really tired though you dont think as you usually owuld.. maybe you should talk to him about it... and if he still doesnt get up... buy your ##### a tazer

~.Sally.~ January 9th, 2007 12:46 PM

I do think that women are more tuned into the small noises a baby makes. My DH did not hear our little one and he had the baby monitor on his side. One night I heard her crying and he was laid in the nursery on the floor in a sleeping bag with the baby monitor next to his head and he was fast asleep.
He has been great, I just think he was not tuned into her noise, he does hear her better now she is older.

Glad to hear your husband is helping you out.

Matt123 January 9th, 2007 01:55 PM

..............


All times are GMT -7. The time now is 05:17 AM.

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2014, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.6.0
Copyright © 2003-2012 JustMommies.com, All Rights Reserved.