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hope71012 August 7th, 2012 08:30 AM

curious..."pain" with birth
 
My first was induced, at a hospital. Stuck on my back. Pitocin upped frequently. Nurse wouldn't let me change positions. I ended up getting an epidural because I couldn't cope with back labor. DD's heart rate kept decreasing (80s) and ended up having to use the vacuum to help her out which included an episiotomy.

With DD2, I went into labor on my own and had her at a birth center. I labored how I felt comfortable, pushed on my own time table. No counting, just go with the flow. No tears, no being cut, it was perfect.

People have asked me how badly it hurt to give birth without pain medication. Honestly, it didn't hurt. I loved pushing and actually feeling her moving with each push. I loved feeling contractions and being able to move freely. It didn't "hurt" at all. I felt calm and relaxed, even though it was hard work. DD1's birth was a lot harder. I felt so out of control and unable to cope. Then when it came to pushing, I just didn't feel confident and couldn't feel to push and of course wasn't listening to my own body's cues to push. I felt like I was going against what my body neededand was trying to do. I would give birth without pain meds any day of the week over having an epidural.

I'm not really sure how to explain this without sounding crazy. And has anyone else ever felt this way when comparing births?

therevslady August 7th, 2012 10:23 AM

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I can completely relate. I actually liked the way it felt to be in labor. The very last part of my natural birth, when I was pushing, when my body was pushing, was INTENSE and I truly felt that in that moment, I felt the power of God surge through me. It was divine. My epidural births were hard. They were also cervidil inductions, but they were hard. I wasn't able to get up before my epi because of my BP, and when I was lying down, it felt like someone was chopping my body in half (even after the epi was given). I never want to feel that pain again, so I will never take birth lying down unless that is what my body is intuitively telling me to do.

daneeleigh August 7th, 2012 11:04 AM

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The pressure leading up to pushing was INTENSE for me. I know it's natural but that's the part of labor I'd like to not experience again although it's unavoidable. Pushing though, amazing. I had him out in five pushes so I really can't say I felt him move down, he was already there lol. I wish I had though. My contractions spaced out so much and the pain disappeared it was kind of amazing.

tryinfor5 August 7th, 2012 01:42 PM

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I love hearing these experiences :) I am going for a NCB on DS#2 this Novemeber. All of the things you ladies are saying make me look forward to giving birth, not fearing it.

Carwen*Angel August 8th, 2012 12:07 AM

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"My first was induced, at a hospital. Stuck on my back. Pitocin upped frequently. Nurse wouldn't let me change positions. I ended up getting an epidural because I couldn't cope with back labor. DD's heart rate kept decreasing (80s) and ended up having to use the vacuum to help her out which included an episiotomy."

I had this exactly with my son, except syntocinon instead of pitocin.

This time I'm hoping for a natural birth and your comparison above is really reassuring, thanks for posting!

Celry August 8th, 2012 05:56 PM

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I had a csection with my twins. I wanted to experience labor because i wasn't sure if we would have another baby or not. I knew I was having a csection because of a breech baby. I labored at home for a long time before my water broke and I had to go in. I was on my back and hooked up to monitors for the next 5 hours, waiting for my Dr. to finish patients for the day and come to the hospital. It was horrible to lay there like that. I was practically climbing out of the bed and was relieved when I got my spinal. For my third child, my water broke and I went in a few hours later. I had to be hooked up to the monitors again for almost an hour since I was doing a VBAC and my midwife wanted a good monitoring session when I first checked in. Baby was not cooperating, so my short monitoring session turned into a not so short session. I was able to concentrate better this time though and wasn't required to lay on my back. My whole labor was so much more relaxed and better. I felt amazing as soon as I was ready to push. I was so much more in control.

amazing_love August 9th, 2012 10:41 AM

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Hearing these stories make me feel that much more confident! My son's birth in the hospital was very stressful. I was forced to stay on the bed so i had a very hard time dealing with the pain not being able to get up and labor as i pleased. I ended up with an epidural and although pushing was my favorite part it was also extremely intense (not in the good sort) and stressful. I was given a time limit of 2 hours and was told once i was at that mark they would have to use other interventions to help him out. I had all the confidence in the world that i could do it ON MY OWN and i did.. he was born 2 min before my "dead line".

Anyway, this time i'm going to a birthing center, no option of an epidural but i'm really excited and looking forward to letting my body do what it needs to on its own. Hoping my experience is a much more pleasant one this time around!

HappyHippy August 11th, 2012 07:56 PM

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I didn't have pain with my NCB either. Sure transition was intense, but it was not painful. Pushing felt interesting, but again, not painful. I always just tell people it wasn't painful, it wasn't scary, it felt normal, and that toothaches hurt far worse than labor for me.

fairymommy August 13th, 2012 11:55 AM

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my NCB was not near as painful as I anticipated. This was my first and it was such an amazing experience and I would do it again in a heart beat! The hardest part was just being so tired to the point I was nodding off in between contractions. lol However, as soon as transition hit and I knew that this was now the moment I have been waiting for, the surge of energy that encompassed me was just unreal, and the entire time I just had this sense of pride in myself - I was really doing this!! I didn't have the whole "ring of fire" burning pain, but my nurse, thinking I did kept saying "i know it burns, I know it burns" i just wanted to laugh and say "No, it just feels like something is lodged in my vajayjay and I want it out!!" I loved every aspect of my daughters birth :)

hope71012 August 14th, 2012 07:26 AM

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I didn't have the whole "ring of fire" burning pain, but my nurse, thinking I did kept saying "i know it burns, I know it burns" i just wanted to laugh and say "No, it just feels like something is lodged in my vajayjay and I want it out!!" I loved every aspect of my daughters birth
"Ring of fire" is not exactly how I would have described it either! The only time I felt any burning was when I rested between contractions and let things stretch slowly. I was more focused on the fact that I did not want anything to come out the other end because OMG! DH kept laughing since I voiced that concern aloud, LOL!

fairymommy August 14th, 2012 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by hope71012 (Post 26400388)
"Ring of fire" is not exactly how I would have described it either! The only time I felt any burning was when I rested between contractions and let things stretch slowly. I was more focused on the fact that I did not want anything to come out the other end because OMG! DH kept laughing since I voiced that concern aloud, LOL!


hahaha my biggest reoccurring concern that i had about giving birth was pooping too! :eek: lol and i didn't! i was really worried about tearing as well, and that didn't happen either woohoo

breastfeedin mama August 14th, 2012 08:54 PM

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Originally Posted by fairymommy (Post 26402842)
hahaha my biggest reoccurring concern that i had about giving birth was pooping too! :eek: lol and i didn't! i was really worried about tearing as well, and that didn't happen either woohoo

those were my worries too and they DID happen to me :(

..Penelope.. August 15th, 2012 06:04 PM

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I pooped, but it happens.

L's birth in a hospital was painful and hard. B's birth at home was intense but amazing.

daneeleigh August 16th, 2012 10:51 AM

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I pooped in the tub a couple of times lol. Poor DF kept fishing it out with the little net :p. At the time I was mortified and kept saying I was so sorry but they laughed and said it's normal. That sensation was so strong I don't know how you don't poop lol.

Twhylite21 August 17th, 2012 03:33 PM

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I've only had NCBs, but none of them were what I would call painful. I had lots of intense pressure with all 3, but not any true pain. Violet was stuck for 3 hours of pushing and the painful part was the MW reaching up to try to get her unstuck, but not the labor itself. Grant got his shoulder stuck, but I didn't even really realize it until I pushed him out all the way. Never felt the ring of fire with any of them either. I tore slightly with all 3, but didn't know until they told me afterwards.


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