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queenofthecastle September 3rd, 2011 10:03 AM

Why am I not excited????
 
I'll be 8 weeks on Thursday and I was feeling confident about this pregnancy then I started freaking out again yesterday. I think it's because I started feeling a bit better nausea wise and it started to make me wonder rather something is happening or not. That and reading about late losses (9+ weeks) and missed m/c freaked me out. I've never had a loss this late.....my latest was 6w 2d.

I really wish that I was seeing an OB (I'm having a h/b with a m/w) because if I am worried, then I can have an u/s to ease my mind.

UGH!!!! I HATE worrying like this :(

DH is letting me go shopping for maternity clothes because I won't be able to wear any of my regular clothes soon and I'm not even excited about it because I'm afraid that I will just have to return them. :(

ZoePaigesMommy September 3rd, 2011 11:56 AM

Re: Why am I not excited????
 
Sorry you are feeling this way, PAL SUCKS! Hope you are able to ease your mind soon.

JessP September 3rd, 2011 12:44 PM

Re: Why am I not excited????
 
I am so sorry. PAL sucks. Its so hard to get excited. I know I didn't feel at ease completely until after 18 weeks. I for sure had to get maternity clothes before then LOL. Enjoy your shopping trip. Remember you are pregnant and you deserve to be comfortable. Try not to worry about later losses. You are going to see them more when you hang out on PAL and TTCAL but really they don't happen that often. If you have already seen/heard the heartbeat your chances of a m/c are 1-2% I think. Sometimes its hard to remember that really your chances of a loss at this point are very small. We are all here for you and understand. I hope you get some shopping done and have fun.
:dothug:

.:Shortcake:. September 3rd, 2011 12:59 PM

Re: Why am I not excited????
 
((HUGS)) I am sorry your feeling nervous. Could you call your OB and go in just for a quick scan or them to check the heartbeat? Just to give you some piece of mind.

queenofthecastle September 3rd, 2011 01:01 PM

Re: Why am I not excited????
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by JessP (Post 24762149)
I am so sorry. PAL sucks. Its so hard to get excited. I know I didn't feel at ease completely until after 18 weeks. I for sure had to get maternity clothes before then LOL. Enjoy your shopping trip. Remember you are pregnant and you deserve to be comfortable. Try not to worry about later losses. You are going to see them more when you hang out on PAL and TTCAL but really they don't happen that often. If you have already seen/heard the heartbeat your chances of a m/c are 1-2% I think. Sometimes its hard to remember that really your chances of a loss at this point are very small. We are all here for you and understand. I hope you get some shopping done and have fun.
:dothug:

I haven't see or heard the h/b yet because I'm using a m/w. I don't get an u/s unless I request one, then I have to drive about 45 minutes to the hospital that she uses to get one done. So I have NO clue whats going on in there...LOL At this point, I'm almost ready to just do it so that I know for sure that I have a healthy bean growing. DH thinks I'm silly for worrying though, so I don't know if he would go for it or not.

TnPhotoMama81 September 3rd, 2011 06:39 PM

Re: Why am I not excited????
 
If i were you I would try to get an u/s. I think she would understand since you have had a loss.

PAL does suck...it's hard to not worry and have neg thoughts flying through your head a million times per min.

<3 hugs

BeccaBee September 3rd, 2011 06:42 PM

Re: Why am I not excited????
 
I would definitely get the u/s for your own peace of mind. The first trimester is so nervewracking - i remember feeling great some days and convinced i wasn't pregnant over the littlest loss of symptoms on other days. You are totally not alone, but i don't know if i could have coped without the u/s.

missy123 September 3rd, 2011 08:01 PM

Re: Why am I not excited????
 
(((hugs))) the beginning is so hard honey. I remember having days where I did not feel as sick and was convinced that I lost the baby. ((more hugs))

kearsty20 September 3rd, 2011 09:45 PM

Re: Why am I not excited????
 
i totally know the feeling i had a misscarriage that people sounded supportive on then telling other people why i dont just get over it when it hadnt even been a week after the m/c. i got pregnant soon after and i havent been able to get as excited about things. i feel bad about saying this but im not sure if i detatched myself a little bit in the beginning to make sure things would go smooth and now that im gunna be 18 weeks im still having trouble, not getting attatched but getting super excited. keep your head up and try to have fun with the shopping! everything will be okay

luvmykids623 September 4th, 2011 07:22 AM

Re: Why am I not excited????
 
I agree that PAL sucks! I have those doubtful days all the time. I went out and bought some maternity clothes for work a few weeks ago, because I knew I would need them when school starts this week. I still haven't taken them out of the bag to wash them, because I'm afraid. I also pulled my maternity clothes from DS and DD from the attic and haven't gone through and washed them for the same reason you mentioned. I'm going to have to do it soon since the students come back Tuesday, but I'm afraid I'll jinx myself. I think this is fitting :pullhair: Know you're not alone!

queenofthecastle September 4th, 2011 08:00 AM

Re: Why am I not excited????
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by TnPhotoMama81 (Post 24763554)
If i were you I would try to get an u/s. I think she would understand since you have had a loss.

PAL does suck...it's hard to not worry and have neg thoughts flying through your head a million times per min.

<3 hugs

My m/w completely understands. When I had some spotting a few weeks ago, she was supportive about me going in for a u/s if thats what I wanted to do. It was DH who talked me out of it and told me that I was worried about nothing. Men don't understand what it's like to be us :( .


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