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lindsey2000k December 4th, 2012 08:40 AM

Anyone planning another baby already?
 
I see about 3 girls on my DDC are pregnant again already. So it has me thinking who is already planning another baby even if you are still pregnant or just gave birth in the last year?

I want another baby and DH had been saying no and now it seams like he is opening up to the idea some. I do not even want to start trying until Bryson is 3. No offense to those of you who have kids back to back but I just could not do it..lol having only 1 infant and a 5yr old (today HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY FIRST RAINBOW!!!) is trying at times. But Bryson has been a very high maintenance baby I cant even go pee with out having to hear him cry :( typically when I come on here to post its while he is crying so I can have 5 minutes with out holding him or entertaining him and the waking 6-8 times a night still. No way no how am I ready for another baby just yet..lol

humnck December 4th, 2012 09:57 AM

Re: Anyone planning another baby already?
 
We are in the same boat, we are definitely going to have another baby, just not NOW! Addy is 5 months old and I think we will wait to TTC until she is at least 2 years old. And to be sure we don't have surprises, I have Mirena:)

We have always talked about 3, but I am wondering if I may want a 4th...Reagan says she wants twins, I do NOT want twins, I don't know how twin parents do it, I am struggling with 1 baby who gets up during the night...lol!

EverydayJoy December 4th, 2012 10:07 AM

Re: Anyone planning another baby already?
 
Wow Bryson sounds a bit like my DS was in the first year. I had to take him with me into the shower, in his bouncy chair, but he would still start to cry partway through even though I showered as quickly as I could. He woke 8-10 times a night, until about 10 months old. And he was fussy and needed LOTS of holding throughout the day. Good thing he was my first baby, I couldn't do it with a toddler I don't think! I'm hoping the baby I'm pg with will be easy on me! Does your 5 year old help out with the baby pretty well?

I'm thinking I might want another after this baby is a couple years old, but I have some heart issues that only become a problem during pregnancy. So depending on whether they're fixable or not (I'm going to be seeing a cardiologist soon), my DH said there's the possibility that this could be our last baby. He doesn't want to have to worry about something happening to me. I hope if that's the case I'd be ok with just two.

Belita December 4th, 2012 12:10 PM

We want another but want to wait until Sean is 1. We have to wait until then anyways since I had a c-section.

melissalaw December 4th, 2012 12:31 PM

Re: Anyone planning another baby already?
 
Happy Birthday Madison!! Jacob is alot like Bryson although the older he gets the more I can put him down without him crying. I think once he gets mobile, he will be able to have some fun without mommy holding him all the time. I hope Bryson starts sleeping better soon. We are still getting up one to two times each night and that is hard but 6 to 8 sounds terrible.

We are talking about trying for another baby sometime soon. I still haven't gotten AF back so I think once I get AF back we will start trying again. I wish we could just blink our eyes and have our babies here and not have to deal with pregnancy. I so want another baby but I'm not looking forward to going through another pregnancy again. It is hard not to worry throughout your entire pregnancy.

Leanne78 December 4th, 2012 01:41 PM

Re: Anyone planning another baby already?
 
I want one more but DH keeps saying 2 is enough. I'm hoping that Cambria being such a good baby will change his mind. What I'm not sure about is the timing. A part of me wants to get it done with ASAP since I'm not getting any younger (will be 34 on the 15th), but I kind of like the 2 1/2 year age break in between.

Belita December 4th, 2012 01:42 PM

Re: Anyone planning another baby already?
 
:happybday: Madison!

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Originally Posted by melissalaw (Post 26837072)
I wish we could just blink our eyes and have our babies here and not have to deal with pregnancy. I so want another baby but I'm not looking forward to going through another pregnancy again. It is hard not to worry throughout your entire pregnancy.

This!!!

humnck December 4th, 2012 02:04 PM

Re: Anyone planning another baby already?
 
Oh my gosh! I totally forgot to say

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, MADISON!!!!

kaylakay December 4th, 2012 03:11 PM

Re: Anyone planning another baby already?
 
We will start TTC in 6 months! When Ava is 1! I can't get into ultrasound school till 2016 so were just going to get another one done before that! Ha

3Sapphires December 4th, 2012 05:05 PM

Re: Anyone planning another baby already?
 
I'm kinda hoping for an oops around this time next year. If not we are probably done, I told dh when I turn 36 I will get fixed, so I have 2 years from march to make it happen, but it takes me so long to get pg, and we wont be ttc, just ntnp.

BeckyBozeman December 4th, 2012 05:51 PM

Re: Anyone planning another baby already?
 
Happy Birthday Madison!!

Believe it or not we're talking about a second already. And we don't want to wait very long... I just turned 38 and we think we'll probably only want 2, but want to leave a little leeway, just in case we want a third. So we'll probably start thinking and talking about TTC when Regan is 6 to 9 months. Plus there are only 14 months between my sister and I and I love how close we have always been...

~Tanya~ December 5th, 2012 06:27 PM

I so wish I could plan on another, but being single isn't very conducive to that :(

I would love for Annalise to have a sibling her age, but if I ever got pregnant again I'd be looking at a good 20+ weeks of bedrest & I can't do that if I'm alone.

Happy belated Birthday Madison!!


ETA: I wish I didn't feel so rotten about the possibility of not having another child... I am so truly blessed to have the three I have- things are just not the way I ever expected them to be.

EverydayJoy December 5th, 2012 09:05 PM

Re: Anyone planning another baby already?
 
I'm sorry Tanya, that must be so hard to have to change all your dreams you had about more children. :(
I wonder if you've thought about adopting?

lindsey2000k December 6th, 2012 05:14 AM

Re: Anyone planning another baby already?
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by EverydayJoy (Post 26836265)
Wow Bryson sounds a bit like my DS was in the first year. I had to take him with me into the shower, in his bouncy chair, but he would still start to cry partway through even though I showered as quickly as I could. He woke 8-10 times a night, until about 10 months old. And he was fussy and needed LOTS of holding throughout the day. Good thing he was my first baby, I couldn't do it with a toddler I don't think! I'm hoping the baby I'm pg with will be easy on me! Does your 5 year old help out with the baby pretty well?

I'm thinking I might want another after this baby is a couple years old, but I have some heart issues that only become a problem during pregnancy. So depending on whether they're fixable or not (I'm going to be seeing a cardiologist soon), my DH said there's the possibility that this could be our last baby. He doesn't want to have to worry about something happening to me. I hope if that's the case I'd be ok with just two.

Showers go over pretty well as long as I don't take to long. I think something about the noise of it makes him happy... but he has to be in the bathroom with me and able to see me.
She tries to help out but I am so tired and cranky most of the time I just don't have the patience for it...lol She has been so great with him and the whole idea of him no jealousy issues at all... now I think if I had my babys closer in age then there would have been problems. Being around some of my friends kids who have them 14-18mo apart my heart just breaks for those babys some times, I have seen way to many time one SCREAMING for mommy but mommy is to busy changing the other ones diaper or feeding the other one. And they both want MOMMY even though other people are around to help with cuddles and what not. So having these guys 4.5 years apart has been great. Madison is pretty much self sufficient she gets her own drinks goes to the bathroom alone can dress her self etc. I really like the fact that she got to be a baby for a long time before the new baby came along.

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Originally Posted by Leanne78 (Post 26837441)
I want one more but DH keeps saying 2 is enough. I'm hoping that Cambria being such a good baby will change his mind. What I'm not sure about is the timing. A part of me wants to get it done with ASAP since I'm not getting any younger (will be 34 on the 15th), but I kind of like the 2 1/2 year age break in between.

With Bryson being so high maintenance Dh will make comments like "well he is making the choice for no more baby's for you".
I try to do everything with him by myself because I know how much DH hates the baby stage and I LOVE it. It works out great because my daughters age drives me batty and he loves this age..lol

lindsey2000k December 6th, 2012 05:20 AM

Re: Anyone planning another baby already?
 
Im sorry Tanya that has to be so hard :(



And to those of you planning to start TTC before the first birthday or right around there you all have lost your minds...lol But I still love you..lol

LindseyE117 December 6th, 2012 06:29 AM

Re: Anyone planning another baby already?
 
Layne is our last. DH got the big V last Friday. :(

MamaRN December 6th, 2012 01:02 PM

Re: Anyone planning another baby already?
 
DH and I are 99% sure we are DONE. Adam, my youngest is 17.5 months and is very high maintenance. He was like your Bryson, up 8-10 times a night until around a year, then 3 times a night until around 13 months. And I have a 3 year old. I'm tired! And just now getting most nights a 6/7 hour stretch of sleep. I just turned 37 and both my pregnancies were tough and high risk, so the thought of going through it all again is not appealing. Plus. I need to go back to work full time ASAP and right now am just doing weekends so we don't have daycare, and if we did it again I think I'd have to do daycare because we can't afford another 5 years of me not working.

But, once in awhile I get wistful for that baby stage and think one more wouldn't be so bad.:)

martilynne December 6th, 2012 07:58 PM

Re: Anyone planning another baby already?
 
HA! NO. I wanted to get pregnant right away after Jax but with BFing I didn't get AF back for a year and then it took another several months to get pregnant. I'm actually really glad that we ended up with this spacing (should be around 25-26 months) since I've been able to put all my focus on Jax right now. DH says we are done now but we aren't doing anything permanent. I wouldn't mind an oops but I'm thinking that won't happen since I plan on nursing again for at least a year.

~Tanya~ December 7th, 2012 05:57 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by EverydayJoy (Post 26843680)
I'm sorry Tanya, that must be so hard to have to change all your dreams you had about more children. :(
I wonder if you've thought about adopting?

I have actually... again as a single mom it would be very difficult because of some of the laws in the state and additionally the cost of doing it.

momof8lopez December 7th, 2012 11:31 AM

Re: Anyone planning another baby already?
 
Im done with the 7 I have now. 2 are gone (military) and leaves 5 at home. 3 of them under 2! However, I chickened out of the tubal this time around. I think phycologically, it has to do with my double mastecomy several years ago....the thought of loosing my fertility will make me feel even less of a woman. I dont plan to have any more though, so we will do our very best to practice safe sex. I really wish I could of mentally went through with the tubal, as I do not want DH to get the big V. I have known several men to have issues after theirs, and I enjoy my sex life to much to risk it, lol. There are no other forms of bc for me, as the Paraguard IUD will not stay in place (my uterus is too big now after so many kids and thats how baby JJ got here) and hormonal bc is not an option as a cancer survivor, so planned intercourse is what Im left with.

Wish me luck with this, I have to make it to menapause, then Im home free!


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