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momof8lopez November 3rd, 2013 07:51 PM

Scared (Birth Control Issues)
 
So, since I could not get my tubes tied this time due to the emergency c-section and me under a full general(you have to give a verbal approval before they cut you) my dr will not tie them now till AFTER my 6wk PP check up, so roughly another 1-2wks after that appt! Would not be a big deal (I can refrain for a couple of more months, lol) but now DH has a rather large diagnosed hernia that is going to need surgery ASAP. Since he will not be able to lift anything for quite a while after surgery (my 50lb 3yr old, 30lb 2yr old, 20lb 11mo old) I will have to carry all the kids to bed (2nd. floor) so I will not be able to have surgery either! Both of our surgery's require no heavy lifting and his is more urgent than mine.....I THINK? Ugh, its like the God's are f'n with me.....I mean, I'm gonna be 43 frik'n years old, I almost died this last time......why does bc have to be such an issue with me?????? The only other option for me would be condoms (dh has never used one in 51yrs of living, that should be interesting, lol) or just plain abstain for another 4 months! My hormones are worse than a 16yr old girl right now, geesh.....

Run down on bc that I can't use: All hormonal bc,(hormone positive breast cancer survivor) any type of IUD (last one fell out after baby #6 due to large uterus), I'm against the BIG V, (irrational fear of my man getting cut the wrong way and no more sex for the rest of my life, lol).

EverydayJoy November 3rd, 2013 08:06 PM

Re: Scared (Birth Control Issues)
 
Wow that is a dilemma! That must be so frustrating for you to feel like you can't take care of this very important piece of the puzzle. What about that coil procedure where they put the coils into your fallopian tubes to occlude them and create scar tissue? I don't know if it would be something that would be easier on your body from a surgical standpoint, vs a typical tube-tying procedure. I think it's called Essure?
I hope you figure out something! I would say break out the condoms for now, hah! Might not be fun but at least you'd get to do SOMEthing.

momof8lopez November 3rd, 2013 11:03 PM

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The Essure procedure is something I looked into before because its more effective than actually tying your tubes! Its non-reverserable unlike tying your tubes and it will NEVER grow back, lol. BUT, it takes up to 3 months to become effective. (possibly longer sometimes) That's the part that scares the poop out of me. I have conceived my last 3 baby's within the first 3-5months PP. All of them on the first time having sex as well.......only once. To say I'm scared, is beyond that.....

lelila November 4th, 2013 05:13 AM

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Lori, you are in a pickle! You are going to have to put your surgery off. But you can do a few things. First, the 3 and 2 yr old are going to have to climb into bed themselves - with assistance of course. Do you have an older child that can pick up the 11 mos old and put them into bed?

Also, the weight restriction of 10 lbs is for a short amount of time. I believe the weight restriction is only for 3 days, 50 lb restriction for 3 weeks.

Address the concerns with your doc. He/she may have an alternative BC option you don't know about. There's all sorts of stuff out there that has been invented lately.

Good luck!

melissalaw November 4th, 2013 06:13 AM

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I agree with Leia I would definitely see what your dr recommends but I would use condoms. That's what DH and I will be doing until we can decide on a more permanent fix to the birth control issue. Is it possible for the vasectomy to go that wrong and they couldn't get an erection again? I've never thought about that and didn't even think that was an option. I have been trying to convince my DH to get a V.

Ame C November 4th, 2013 12:55 PM

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That's a sticky situation. Not sure what to say to help because I don't know a lot about all the options out there. I agree you should ask your dr and see what they say. We aren't condom fans either (I'm guessing your DH isn't since he's never used one) but sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do. I also agree that your older children should try to help you with the bedtime routine until you or DH are healed enough to handle it on your own again.

Jessghetti November 4th, 2013 08:08 PM

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Well I think your DH SHOULD at least try Condoms once, it's not fair that only you have ever had to worry about b/c. You could try abstaining, but if not at all possible, you can abstain from having intercourse and rely on other methods to get uh.. relief.

Also there is always masturbation.

So I suggest you try all those options before tempting fate with unprotected sex.

momof8lopez November 4th, 2013 09:13 PM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Jessghetti (Post 27778103)
Well I think your DH SHOULD at least try Condoms once, it's not fair that only you have ever had to worry about b/c. You could try abstaining, but if not at all possible, you can abstain from having intercourse and rely on other methods to get uh.. relief.

Also there is always masturbation.

So I suggest you try all those options before tempting fate with unprotected sex.

LOL, masturbation has been my sole means for the last 9mo....I can only be so creative, lol But I do agree, I will never temp fate again. Not after this pregnancy.

Quote:

Originally Posted by melissalaw (Post 27776259)
I agree with Leia I would definitely see what your dr recommends but I would use condoms. That's what DH and I will be doing until we can decide on a more permanent fix to the birth control issue. Is it possible for the vasectomy to go that wrong and they couldn't get an erection again? I've never thought about that and didn't even think that was an option. I have been trying to convince my DH to get a V.

My ex-FIL, was never able to get erect after his big V. I keep being told it was over 40yrs ago that he had the surgery.....but STILL!! I know there always , some risk with any surgery, but at least with a tubal, I will always "work" down stairs!

Schofield06 November 5th, 2013 04:54 PM

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That seems so frustrating! I know very little about all of this, but I also would check with your dr. to make sure there isn't another option for bc.


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