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AngelMommy413 December 11th, 2013 02:34 PM

This one takes the cake.. DH Rant
 
After one year of marriage, the loss of our first baby, and with both of us being one year away from graduating, my DH is sleeping on the couch tonight. :mad:

He has decided that if we were to become pregnant right now, we should allow his parents to take care of our baby until we've graduated and have solid jobs. This plan wouldn't be so bad, except for the fact that his parents live on another continent. Where we would have to plan for MONTHS to even VISIT our child and save up for plane tickets. Oh, and schedule that around our vacations. Not to mention the fact that his mother dislikes me in the first place.

Now I'm afraid to even become pregnant in the first place because I don't want our child's youngest years to be stolen from me. We already lost one baby. This is asking too much. Apparently, a similar thing happened to another girl at school, so that's where the idea came from.
The best place for a child is with the parents anyway! And I wouldn't consider any alternatives to breastfeeding, so the plan isn't even feasible.

I'm so angry about this, I can't even talk to him about the MAJOR flaws in this plan. Of course, I would never allow this to happen. Worse case scenario, my mom and sisters (who live in the same city) would be able to help us. I understand that he is very concerned about our careers right now, and it's a hard economy, but I am so hurt that he would even think about sending our baby to live with his parents.

Rant over.. but why don't men have a filter? Or at least a brain to think a scenario all the way through before talking! :(

butterfly721 December 11th, 2013 04:49 PM

Re: This one takes the cake.. DH Rant
 
I'm sorry. Sometimes men come up with the weirdest ideas. If you were to become pregnant, I doubt that he would actually be able to do this once the baby was born. He would be too attached to the baby.

:dothug:

Rainbow Catcher December 11th, 2013 05:39 PM

Re: This one takes the cake.. DH Rant
 
omg I can't imagine!!

ashleyjo December 11th, 2013 05:50 PM

Re: This one takes the cake.. DH Rant
 
Ummm... hell to the no. I would flip my lid if my husband said that to me! I'm sorry mama! :(

AngelMommy413 December 11th, 2013 06:56 PM

Re: This one takes the cake.. DH Rant
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by butterfly721 (Post 27851348)
If you were to become pregnant, I doubt that he would actually be able to do this once the baby was born. He would be too attached to the baby.

That's for sure. There's no way he would actually be able to be so far away, let alone cause so much grief. He's such a softie~

Quote:

Originally Posted by ashleyjo (Post 27851452)
Ummm... hell to the no. I would flip my lid if my husband said that to me! I'm sorry mama! :(

That's exactly what I did.. I think he's a little scared of me right now ;)

The poor guy bought me ice cream and decided to watch my favorite movie tonight. I think he's trying to make up for it :wub:

Thank you for letting me blow off some steam :heart:

Tiffany8620 December 11th, 2013 09:09 PM

Sounds like he didn't really think that idea through!

.:Shortcake:. December 12th, 2013 07:01 AM

Re: This one takes the cake.. DH Rant
 
Yeah that would NOT fly with me!

momology December 12th, 2013 07:43 AM

Re: This one takes the cake.. DH Rant
 
Whewww it sounds like maybe he just wasn't really thinking that through. . . that would be very upsetting :hug: I am glad he is making up for it now. Vent away anytime!!

MelChicago December 12th, 2013 08:08 AM

Re: This one takes the cake.. DH Rant
 
Sounds like one of those moron ideas that men get sometimes, that have no basis in reality. I can see why you're upset, but honestly, it's so far out (IF you conceive, IF you don't have jobs yet, if this, if that...) that I wouldn't even bother giving it any power.


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