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MamaPickles June 27th, 2009 09:35 PM

Do people notice?
 
Does it seem like people notice that you're pregnant or do you have to tell them? I'm 33+ weeks pregnant and I try to wear fitted clothing and think I'm carrying fairly high. Even though I'm a plus-sized mommy, I think I finally look very pregnant. Still it seems like no one notices that I'm pregnant! It really bothers me because I don't get those comments like "aw you look so cute". Even my grandma today (in front of my entire shower party, might I add) said "Are you really pregnant?"

To which I responded, "No grandma, I'm just really really fat".

*sigh*

I think people think that's supposed to be a compliment, but I just can't seem to take it that way. Anyone else?

mbsn June 28th, 2009 04:37 AM

Re: Do people notice?
 
Same here. I'm at 33 weeks and feel like I have finally started looking pregnant to outsiders in maybe the last week. I've been careful with my weight gain during the pregnancy so for awhile I had feelings of pride when someone said I didn't look pregnant. Now I'm less than 7 weeks away and starting to feel like baby could be here any day. I want some recognition of that! I find myself thinking about parking in the expectant mother's spot just so that people notice. I'm tempted to start doing the pregnant waddle or sitting with my hand on my belly all the time, neither of which I'm doing naturally. For my shower I picked an outfit that I thought really emphasized that I was preggo. On the first day of our child birth class, we went around the room saying what we felt were the best and the worst things about being pregnant. At least half the women in the room said the best thing was all the attention they were getting from everyone, including strangers. I admit I was a little jealous. On the bright side, at least I don't have strangers coming up and trying to touch my belly.

I don't have any advice on how to change it, but I understand how you're feeling.

Wait, I guess I have one suggestion. Have you taken any pregnancy photos? I took some informal ones (clothed) and that made me feel "normal". I could see, yes, that's a pregnant woman. I sent them to some out of town family and got the "aw, how cute" response from them.

MamaPickles June 28th, 2009 08:55 AM

Re: Do people notice?
 
See, I have other friends who are having maternity photos done and have thought to myself "I'm not having them done because I must not look pregnant and I'll just look silly in them."

Maybe I'll try just doing some at home. I too have been very careful about weight gain...only 10lbs so far, and because of that I actually was thinking I looked more pregnant this time around than I did with dd...if that makes sense somehow.

Vicki... June 28th, 2009 09:12 AM

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I am there with you ladies, I and my family can see that I definitely have a bump, but no one says anything or seems to notice, which is greatly depressing to me, I just want to look pregnant and have that cute lil preggo belly that is undeniably a bump. I really don't have any advice but wanted to say i understand and also hate it ((((hugs))))

mbsn June 28th, 2009 09:44 AM

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Originally Posted by MamaPickles (Post 16383900)
See, I have other friends who are having maternity photos done and have thought to myself "I'm not having them done because I must not look pregnant and I'll just look silly in them." Maybe I'll try just doing some at home.

I did mine at home. You've got nothing to lose. I bet you can get some really sweet ones with Eden.

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Originally Posted by MamaPickles (Post 16383900)
I too have been very careful about weight gain...only 10lbs so far, and because of that I actually was thinking I looked more pregnant this time around than I did with dd...if that makes sense somehow.

It makes sense to me. My face looks thinner now than pre-pregnancy because the fat is being burned off or moved around for baby. If all my belly were fat rather than baby, my face would be much pudgier.

amholb0 June 29th, 2009 06:07 AM

Re: Do people notice?
 
Well, I'm not far enough to look pregnant yet but, I suspect I won't have the cute bump at any stage and I do find that kind of sad.

carolinagirl05 June 30th, 2009 08:34 AM

Re: Do people notice?
 
I happened to wander over here onto this forum, and I wanted to add my opinion on this!!! I too am overweight, and actually lost weight (over 20lbs) at the beginning of the pregnancy. I was always so worried that people would just think I am fat. I have noticed that some people can tell I am pregnant and some just don't comment. For example, the other day at Walmart, the lady asked me if I was having twins- I am 32.5 weeks-- I almost slapped her. But then I thought "well, at least she could tell I'm pregnant and not just fat!"

ChicaChels June 30th, 2009 12:53 PM

Re: Do people notice?
 
i am huge but rarely get comments on my belly, but i have to say i rarely comment on people being pregnant - even those itty bitty girls who have huge huge bumps because once i asked a lady when she was due (I was in high school at this time) and she turned bright red and her eyes filled up with tears and she said "Im NOT PREGNANT" ...i felt like an ***, and I have never asked someone when they are due since then..it was really traumatic!
so i always assume people just dont want to offend me! you mommas are all beautiful preggos though and don't let anyone make you think otherwise!!

PinkFireFly July 1st, 2009 01:38 PM

Re: Do people notice?
 
Granted I am only roughly 18weeks but I am already wearing maternity pants.... I can tell I have a bump and so can DH but my family and friends look at me and just pretty much ignore the fact that I have gotten a bump....

I had a co-worker as me how far along I was and said almost and 18weeks and he said I wouldn't even have guessed you were pregnant!!! My uncle knows Im prego but says I look like I have just lost weight... It is almost saddening to me because I CAN TELL... but others can't... in a way am I jealous I don't have the skinny belly with baby bump... yea... but I hope I will show a bit more, or not show at all and just not be considered "looking fat."

3Sapphires July 17th, 2009 07:02 AM

Re: Do people notice?
 
no one noticed with either of mt pregnancies. it was depressing.

i was about 36 week with ds2 and i went to the hair dresser, i was having a few contrax, so i asked for minute to relax before she called me back - she rolled her eyes and walked away.

i then later explained to her that i was having some contrax and needed a minute, she said

"oh, you are pregnant huh?" i said yeah and i am due in less than a month - i was so hurt.

MomtoKatieB July 21st, 2009 08:14 AM

Re: Do people notice?
 
I have just started having people at work say "Oh, you are starting to show".

Koti August 4th, 2009 12:51 AM

Re: Do people notice?
 
It's more noticeable in my maternity jeans.

I can't tell at all in my scrubs.

Ew, how am I going to fit into my scrubs when I get bigger?!?!?!

Nyzira August 4th, 2009 01:52 AM

Re: Do people notice?
 
I still just look fat... got the "B belly" as they call it. Just looks like my lower belly is getting fatter more than anything. I have to actually comment on being pregnant for anyone to know and I still don't get the comments. I'm hoping I'll manage to get the cute bump in the next few weeks but I'm not holding my breath.

Autumn's Momma August 4th, 2009 01:57 PM

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I'm 29 weeks pregnant and just went to my next door neighbors (we just moved about a month ago) to invite her to a mary kay party I am having. I commented about being pregnant and due in 11 weeks and she as like WHAT?! no way my daughter is pregnant and due after you and she LOOKS pregnant You dont look pregnant.....I didn't know what to say I was like well I am and then felt stupid like a kid defending myself. It was pretty sad. I came home and whinned to DH and walked around without a shirt on for 10 min staring at my belly :lol: to convince myself i really was pregnant

Indymommy7 August 4th, 2009 02:12 PM

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I am only 17 week, so maybe it's too soon, but I hate the confused looks when I mention I am pregnant. :(


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