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momma S February 24th, 2010 10:29 AM

whatever
 
remove my post cause I complained about pg people being ignorant (who conceive easily)... I was venting and obviously not allowed to say what I wanted.

MommaLee February 24th, 2010 10:43 AM

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I didn't even see it, but I have to agree with you. I know that I didn't really post this around, but this weekend I found out someone I use to work with at my old job was spreading a rumor that I was unhappy and my pregnancy was unwanted. I'm not really sure how they know that cause they didn't ask me or dh (and I haven't been there in 14 months), but instead just took it upon themselves to determine how I felt. I was a little angry about it since we struggled.

I think alot of them thought I overreacted but if I were to call them a bad parent, I'm sure they would have been upset and chewed on me too. People are ignorant sometimes especially when things come so easy to them.

Daisee37 February 24th, 2010 11:00 AM

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your post was removed? Really? I think what you said was entirely appropriate, and I agree with you 100%... people who've never gone through infertility sometimes have no idea how painful it can be, and they take their pregnancies for granted. I totally understand why you were venting, and I'm not sure what that was so wrong...

momma S February 24th, 2010 11:06 AM

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THANK YOU LADIES! All I needed was someone to agree with me :)

momma S February 24th, 2010 11:16 AM

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People get offended way too easily when no offense was intended.

Kary♥RN February 24th, 2010 12:00 PM

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Well I have to say I read it... and while I wanted to respond.. I didn't because I am pregnant.... BUT I can tell you... I could of wrote that post last month, the month before... and so on....... I wanted to post... I SO UNDERSTAND... I also didn't think it was that bad... it was a vent. Sometimes you just need to know what you are feeling is normal. And it is... and it is ok to feel that way. HUGS

momma S February 24th, 2010 12:16 PM

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Kary, You have struggled to get where you are, even if you get pg easier than some of us, I don't for one second think you take your pg for granted. I know how much you want this too. We all have our own issues and struggles and I just am getting so fed up. I wish I could be more happy for people IRL, but that isn't where I am at right now.

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Originally Posted by Kary♥RN (Post 19192731)
Well I have to say I read it... and while I wanted to respond.. I didn't because I am pregnant.... BUT I can tell you... I could of wrote that post last month, the month before... and so on....... I wanted to post... I SO UNDERSTAND... I also didn't think it was that bad... it was a vent. Sometimes you just need to know what you are feeling is normal. And it is... and it is ok to feel that way. HUGS

you also don't have to hide your siggy :)

I hope what I wrote came out right Kary?? I think I need to stop typing today can't get my words right.

Kary♥RN February 24th, 2010 12:50 PM

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It Came out right..... HUGS...

I just wanted you to know.... I understand and respect what you wrote the first time, Yes respect..... What we are going through.... Loss, Infertility, Secondary Infertility, Adoption, Tests, tests, and oh did I say tests? Pills, shots, things being constantly proded in our women parts.... Why can't you vent.. When I know what you wrote... I never had the balls to write.... Even though I felt it. In the deepest bones of my body... I felt the hatred, the jelousness, the envoy. I wanted to be happy for them... but I couldn't.. When boards Have BFP's BOOM... I wanted to throw my computer... WHY NOT ME??? When I would m/c... and I had to come back to TTCAL... and than to join all the other boards.. TTC 1year +, TTCW/MA.... WHY???? IT is ok to feel this way. And I'm sorry you were not able to VENT... HUGS!

frankie February 24th, 2010 01:44 PM

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Darn I didn't read it.. I am sure I would of agreed!!! LOL The ones that take it personal are normally the ones who are ignorant LOL

alicenwonderland February 24th, 2010 01:57 PM

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I didn't read it, but even though I'm prego I'm sure I would agree with you. During the years that I struggled, I had people say they didn't understand why I was so upset about it, or why i would go through painful tests to find out what was wrong. Even the gem that it wasn't like I was the only one in the world who suffered a m/c. (And then whine to me about what a terrible surprise their pregany was) People are just stupid sometimes. Whatever you said, *Hugs*.

momma S February 24th, 2010 02:13 PM

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See, people that need help to get pg understand this... even without reading my whole post.

Kary- That was very nice of you to say. I agree with you 100% of every word you wrote.

Kobain's Mommy February 24th, 2010 03:35 PM

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I didn't read it but I still have feelings towards people conceive easily.

rhyssa February 24th, 2010 04:10 PM

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I did not read the post, but i do know how it feels.
As much as i hate to admit this, a cousin of mine just had a baby girl after loosing a babyboy at 38 weeks 2 years ago- And as much as i wanted to just be happy for her. My first thought was - why not me????-
Do not get me wrong iam happy for her, after all she went through she deserves this very much.
I would just like to be one of the lucky ones soon!
So, yes i do understand and if these boards are not for venting , ranting and supporting each other through all of the ups and downs of thisjourney, then what are they for?
Sorry, this turned into a bit of a rant as well,:wub:
Rhyssa

Daisee37 February 24th, 2010 04:39 PM

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That's exactly it... these boards ARE for ranting, and this forum is the most appropriate since everyone knows exactly how you feel. Maybe it would've been inappropriate in a different forum, but on this one, we have ALL been there (or currently ARE there), and we all feel jealousy and anger towards those who have no idea how hard it can be for those of us who can't get pg easily. I think what you said was necessary and proper for this group... the whole point of a support group is to be able to get your feelings out there, and you weren't insulting anyone on this message board, since I'm pretty sure NO ONE here would take a pregnancy for granted, or complain about being pg in front of someone struggling with infertility. So yea, anyway, I'm behind you 100%.

momma S February 24th, 2010 04:54 PM

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Thanks again ladies :p

I actually do know who reported me since she pm'd me after I posted this. She doesn't even post on the MA board nor did she have MA if I understood correctly... Why do people lurk here for no reason???

I agree these boards are for ranting and venting and complaining along with all of the support and positive things we get from each other. I am sure many of you are in the same boat as me and don't have many people if any you can talk to IRL that would understand a fraction of what you feel with this TTCMA we have to go through. I wasn't looking to make drama with my post. If you knew me I HATE drama, love gossip though, hate drama!

Well, as my DH would say "I never know when to shut my mouth"... LOL

jamie7 February 24th, 2010 05:18 PM

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I did not get a chance to read it but I think from what I am reading here I can relate to what you posted and have had some similar feelings! Sometimes it just feels better to let it out and vent!

rebeccabaltimore and more February 24th, 2010 05:28 PM

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I didn't read your post, and I am 28 weeks pregnant, but I'm jealous of people who didn't get pregnant in a doctor's office, with a third party present, after weeks of injections and ultrasounds.

It only took 4 months to conceive my son but it was a tough 4 months!

*CAMM* February 24th, 2010 05:28 PM

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Ok why the heck would someone come on our board and lurk and then report a post...sheesh go back to your on board if you dont like whats said here!!!!


man I wish i had gotten to read your post! im sure i would of 100% agreed.

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Originally Posted by Kary♥RN (Post 19193525)
It Came out right..... HUGS...

When boards Have BFP's BOOM... I wanted to throw my computer... WHY NOT ME??? . HUGS!


this is soooo me right now. I cant post much in my PR anymore because there are so many bfp announcements and here I am a 3x IVF failure just praying I have at least one more good egg left in me :(

Kari_B February 24th, 2010 06:51 PM

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Didn't get a chance to read your post but I'm sure if you look back a ways you'll find one from me that is pretty much the same dang thing. HUGS! Sorry your post was reported :(

pianogirl February 24th, 2010 09:05 PM

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Like most of the ladies said I didn't get to read your post either but it sounds to me I would've agreed as well. People who don't have our struggle don't get it and we wouldn't wish this on anyone so perhaps they need to understand the point of this board is to vent and have similar people understand and lend support. I've actually came right out and said I need to get new friends, the criteria would be if you got pregnant after having sex once then you can't be my friend...lol...and like Rebecca said wouldn't it be nice to not have to conceive your child under fluorescent lights and your legs in stir-ups.


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