My Kids are Out of Control: 8 Steps to Changing Your Kids' Behavior
Parents often have expectations of their children. For example, they might say, “I want you to be good while we are Aunt Mary’s today.” But what does good mean? This is where it is important to be extremely clear about the rules. You could say, “While we are at Mary’s today here is what I expect. Do not touch anything that is not yours. Do not scream, whine, or ask to go home.” This way they clearly know what you mean by the word “good.” At home, the rules could be, “Your bedroom needs to be cleaned, and your homework needs to be done before you can play video games.” The point is the rules need to be specific and understandable.