TV Guidelines for Young Children

By Jan Roberts, Parent Educator and Coach

Dear Parent Coach,

My three young children are constantly asking to see TV programs I don't approve of but their friends watch, or to rent videos I'm not sure about.  The monitoring requirements of today's parent seem constant.  Can you offer guidelines?

Signed, "Parent Censor"

The effort that parents like yourself make in censoring their children's exposure to TV, movies and the media is as important to their children's health and well-being as the limiting of junk food is in their diets.

Greatly lowered standards of media messages and increased openness in TV programming toward topics that used to be taboo, require more diligence on the part of parents who want to impress their own important values on their children. This is best accomplished if both parents agree on what is acceptable TV fare for their children, and each parent consistently enforces these decisions.

When children are young, it is responsible and wise to limit much of what they are viewing at home.  Some families have one or two appropriate TV programs they look forward to watching together such as Extreme Home Makeover or American Idol.  Generally, unsupervised TV viewing should be off limits during the school week.

There are many other enlightening and educational offerings on TV that can be enjoyed by the entire family and that can support family values.  Others may be either a negative influence or a waste of time.  Choose carefully.

However diligent, it is impossible for parents to protect their children from every negative influence in their world.  TV news programs used to serve as a method of educating children about what was happening in the world, but now have become horror shows filled with school shootings, freeway chases and the violence of war.  Even sporting events, once enjoyed by children, become questionable viewing when inappropriate commercials pop up unexpectedly.

Parents have more control in choosing DVDs or movies their children watch.  What children might view while visiting a friend's home, however, is another concern for parents.  There will always be families who make more lenient choices than your own.  It takes courage for parents to hold firm to their own standards when their children's friends have fewer limits.

Young children are very impressionable, and I encourage you to continue to be a diligent "parent censor" regarding their TV and video watching for the sake of your children's healthy emotional growth.  Yes, it is a constant and tiring task, but in the end, you will feel great satisfaction in having protected your children from junky and mindless viewing.  Remember, a picture is worth a thousand words.

Practical Parenting Pointers:

1.  Allow your children to only watch programs you've pre-approved or they view with you.
2.  Limit or eliminate "screen time" during the school week.
3.  Have a "no TV" rule when children go to a friend's home.  Encourage creative play instead.
4.  Watch TV news programs after children are in bed.
5.  List acceptable DVDs for your children to choose from.
6.  Use internet sites such as for parental guidelines regarding movies and videos.
7.  Ratings of PG and PG13 have been determined by the film industry.  They may not coincide with your family values, so check it out yourself.
8.  Place a basket of books beside the TV to give your children another choice.
9.  Board games encourage positive family interaction more so than TV viewing.

Parent well!    

The Parent Coach

About the Author:

The Parent Coach, Jan Roberts, also teaches weekly parenting classes, coaches parents individually, and writes a weekly newspaper column


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By jillviray on 10/23/12 at 7:26 am

Nice article! Thank you for sharing those useful pointers. It surely helps.

By RyansMomAZ on 01/26/11 at 11:51 am

I agree that DVDs are a great option. No ads and you only get the shows you want. Our local library has a lot, so we check them from there instead of ha  ...

By FYDMaryEllen on 06/04/10 at 5:26 am

Great article! I am 'accused' of being overprotective and the most conservative of all conservatives....but I am relentless. I love Disney as an alterna  ...

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