Should You Spy on Your Teenager? - Page 2

By Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D.

As parents, then, we need to remember that while it can be nerve-wracking for us, this autonomy our kids are working so hard to achieve is exactly what they’re supposed to be developing.  It’s ultimately what we want for them—for them to be their own individuals, with the ability to think for themselves and thrive on their own, with the support of their family. 

So give your teenagers that support.  Keep checking up on them, making sure that they’re safe and making good decisions.  Accountability is crucial for kids at this age.  But do it in a way that’s honest and that also protects your relationship and the trust between you.


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By .Brandi. on 06/26/09 at 7:10 am

I have mixed feelings on this, because my mom used to snoop through my backpack and my notes that were passed back and forth in class. I was never on t  ...

By Bubba's Mama on 06/26/09 at 6:50 am

Well I am nowhere near having a teenager but i do think that a little spying is necessary to make sure they are safe and not doing anything they arent s  ...

By AmandaHugNKiss on 06/26/09 at 12:55 am

Being upfront is exactly how I handled it when my 12 year old daughter wanted to use instant messaging. SHe was already very aware of not adding strange  ...

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