If at first you don’t succeed… try drinking more coffee

Seriously coffee has become my solution for everything.  Some of you may know that I have recently started an online college program.  I have actually gone to college a few different times but never finished so this time I am determined to get through this.  Since I have four kids, homeschool, and run a busy website, you may be wondering how I do it all.  Well the answer to this is….. I don’t!  Although I am really trying to get better at multi-tasking, usually what happens is I juggle.  I think this is how all good mommies get things done!  One day I might get a ton done on JM but fall terribly behind with school work and the next I might get caught up with school but fall behind on JM duties.  I just finally have learned to accept that I can’t do it all, all the time.  It also helps that my husband fills in the gaps.  He does a lot of the mommy duties like cleaning the house and helping with the kids’ homeschool work.   Aren’t I lucky?

The reason I titled my post if at first you don’t succeed is because I have tried many things and failed the first time, the second time, the third time, and then finally got it right by the fourth or fifth time.  So many times I see moms give up on something they want to do because they failed at it the first time or felt like they failed at it.  Instead of persisting and saying I can do it, they say “whelp I tried that and it didn’t work for me.”  Just because something didn’t go well the first time (or the second or the third or even the fourth time) doesn’t mean you aren’t good at it or that your plan won’t work.  Every successful person got to be this way by persisting and trying again.  Most people are just not naturally good at things, and even the ones that are usually still have to work at it.  I see moms that think they can’t lose weight because they aren’t one of those “naturally thin” people, or they can’t go back to school because they aren’t “naturally good at school”, or they can’t keep their house clean because they just aren’t one of those “naturally organized” people, or they can’t succeed at starting their own work at home mommy business because they are not a “natural sales person”, but what they don’t realize is that most people don’t get this magical gift of being smart or talented, they work at it.  Each time you try something you learn something, even with your failures.

So here I am going back to school and wondering if I am actually going to make it all the way through this time.  When I made the decision to go back to college I knew it was not going to be easy but I also know I am not getting any younger and that if I want to do it, now was as good a time as any.  This first week has been completely exhausting and I really want to just quit.  I keep juggling and pushing myself to keep going.  I am hoping by blogging about my student mommy experience that I can motivate myself to plug along and that maybe I can inspire other moms that want to go back to school (or do any other thing that they feel motherhood is keeping them from doing), to just go for it!

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