It’s taken 10 years for me to fully realize what adoption is. Most of us are touched by it every day, just not in the most conventional way.
We are all adopted in one way or another. I have been blessed to have been adopted into my husband’s family. Our relationship started out rocky. But over time, they have become closer and more dear to me, in some ways, than my biological family.
For the first time in 10 years, I teared up as I left my mother- and father-in-law’s house to come home. As I drove away, I thought about how much I had ridiculed Tony in the first years we were together about him getting upset when we left. And now, I found myself not wanting to leave. I love my mother- and father-in-law. They have loved me unconditionally for 10 years, and there are many times that I don’t think I deserved their love very much. My sister-in-law is one of the most fun people to hang around with and has become a beautiful and wonderful mother. I have learned so much from her, and I know I will continually learn from and with her… Thanks, Erica, for having a baby first!! Her husband and his family are like family to me as well. We’ve spent holidays together, and I can’t think of them not being a part of our lives.
I’ve learned from the Wallas, the Tomaszewskis, and the Churillas what family really is. It is accepting people despite their flaws, it is surrounding yourself with people who love you for who you really are, it’s a little bit about blood, but it’s way more about love.
I am blessed to know that the baby that will join our family will be loved despite the lack of blood line. He or she will be loved more than words can say.
Photo: Giolas Photography