Topic: Feeling down
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August 1st, 2008, 06:39 AM
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Well even with an international adoption I think you honestly don't need to worry about that. Even though it would be different in many regards than the overall process of how you end up with your own biological child - in the end it is the same thing - it is YOUR child. My sister adopted my niece at around 10 months & she had 2 bio children from before. She also had one failed private adoption prior. She still loves my niece the same as her other 2. She was worried about this too. But once they hand that child over to you & tell you that this child is YOURS - the child really is yours in your heart as well. Part of bonding with a child is certainly knowing that it is okay & that you are secure that this time it is for keeps. I know I loved Jonah before he was born, but I really couldn't feel like I was bonding with him until he was here. I think too I was guarded as I was afraid on so many levels.

I am sorry this is so heavy on your mind right now. I think it is great that you are tlaking it out though & getting it vented & worked through.
B - Crazy momma to my two boys
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