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January 29th, 2009, 01:05 PM
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Juno -

I was in a similar situation to you - except I was 18, not 17.

As much as I would have loved to share the birth with the adoptive parents - I kind of wanted that to be a special moment for me and Kate. I knew that I was going to give her up the second I realized I was pregnant and the moment that she was born, I was grateful that I had the chance to spend a few moments with her.

In fact, I didn't even pick out the adoptive family until the day after she was born! I have an open adoption - we share pictures, emails, phone calls and I can visit whenever I want. She is almost 5 now and her parents are absolutely amazing.

You are incredibly strong for making the decision you are making. There is really no right or wrong way to do it - it is all about what YOU want and what YOU feel comfortable in doing. I applaud you, for I know it is both the easiest and hardest decision you will ever make.

If you need someone to talk to you, you can email me at [email protected]. I'm always around.

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