Topic: What to do :(
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April 18th, 2009, 03:24 AM
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I am so sorry, honey. That's a really difficult position for you to be in, but it sounds to me as though you are being a great friend. You've let her know you are thinking of her and made her feel loved and thought of. That's the best thing that you can do.

Speaking from experience, a miscarriage can affect you for a very long time. There's no cap on gthe grief or loss, but many people expect you to be over it within a few weeks. Your friend may be spiralling into a depression partly because she feels she is unable to still be voicing her emotions so she's keeping them inside. But everyone is different and loss will affect everyone differently. After a while, it can feel as though you've said everything there is to say and yet you're still not feeling any better, so you stop saying anything at all.

Carry on doing what you have been doing, hun. Be there for her, show her you are always there when she wants to talk. Don't be afraid to bring the subject up - she may be grateful to know you haven't forgotten her loss and that you are genuinely interested in her welfare. I'm sure you'll be able to tell when she does and doesn't want to talk about it x x

I agree with the lady above who said she may need some professional help if things get too difficult for her. Sometimes you need a little extra help and there's only so much her friends can do.

You're doing great, hun - hang in there x x

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