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April 23rd, 2009, 02:19 PM
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I had an early miscarriage right before I got pregnant with Roald. I believe from conception that a child is a soul and I do count that loss as our child. I even named him or her-Terry Jae Lightner. But since most other people don't really count an early loss as an actual child I don't really include them in the kid count if someone's asking me for a number. But my husband always says we've lost two kids; it didn't hurt as much as when we lost Roald but we were really devaststed when it happened. And really, I think I do include them alot when someone asks; when they ask if I have kids, I say I've had a miscarriage and then I also tell them about losing Roald.

I think it's okay to say miscarriages are different than stillbirths but to me it's still a child. But if you're trying to avoid confusion I think it's okay to not include them in your count.
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