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mrsdaiwa24 November 4th, 2013 02:05 PM

Feeling overwhelmed
I know that some of you ladies have it so much worse, so I feel awful complaining that I'm tired. However, no one else understands and I'm tired of trying to explain myself to non-preggos, so here it goes.....

I'm beyond tired. I was managing the fatigue for a while, but it's winning. I'm making stupid mistakes -- noticeable, stupid mistakes like forgetting a faculty meeting and forgetting an answer key and having to admit to the kids that I couldn't grade a review worksheet at home so they could have the answers for the test. Betsy makes comments like "Your room is so messy Mommy!" because straightening up is the last thing I want to do.

I get about three - four hours of energy in the morning (fueled by an adrenaline rush because traffic causes my stress to go through the roof) and then, that's it -- I crash by about 11 am. No amount of sugar, juice, protein, or anything else will wake me up. Most days, there is no hope for a nap.

I have 60 essays to grade. I have 160 completed tests as of Wednesday that will need grades. I have parent-teacher night time conferences on Thursday. Oh, and I have a daughter who was just diagnosed with the beginnings of pneumonia. "You should be grading papers and not playing on JM right now" I'm sure you're thinking...... but I lack the focus right now to start doing anything productive and you need to have focus when you're reading 60 essays on whether or not Hammurabi's law code was just.

I'm so flippin' tired. I just want to cry. :cry:

Thanks for listening to me whine. I'll stop now.

Wish44 November 4th, 2013 02:10 PM

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Awww, I totally get it. And this is the perfect place to rant. As a former teacher (my husband got transferred late in the summer, so I am not teaching this year), I totally get where you are coming from. In fact, these past few weeks I've been so nauseas and tired, I've actually counted my lucky stars that I am not teaching right now. I don't know how in the world I would do it!

You are growing a baby. And that takes A LOT of energy. The most important thing you can do right now is take care of your body and your growing baby. Somehow everything else will get done. The house can go without getting picked up, you can ask DH to help with household chores, and just do the best you can with everything else. Betsy needs you, as well. Take some time to cuddle, nap, and rest with her while she gets better. It will help you both!

We're always here for you, Amy! Big hugs!

Beeker November 4th, 2013 02:14 PM

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You are always so hard on yourself. You are growing a human! Sometimes it's good to let your students see you are human and can admit to being a little behind. You are an amazing teacher. Hugs!!

mrs_zipre November 4th, 2013 02:15 PM

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Just remember this phase is short lived and give yourself some wiggle room. Hugs.

AtomicMama November 4th, 2013 02:25 PM

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Lots of hugs, Amy! I completely understand. I have a huge project that was due in Mid-October that I'm still working on because I just can't focus to save my life. I hate it, but I don't know how to fix it.

I wish people would be more understanding of you. It's so hard! And so much harder with a 3 year old at home, on top of everything. I hope Betsy feels better soon, too.

epsilonbeta November 4th, 2013 03:11 PM

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((Hugs)) I totally get it. Progress reports are due today and I have been so far behind on grading. My house has been a mess because I have no energy to clean and two messy boys at home.

Take a deep breath, get yourself some kind of treat you can keep down and know it will get better.

moxiemommie November 4th, 2013 03:53 PM

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You have a TON on your plate! Its no wonder you are exhausted! *hugs* Today, I seriously passed out on the couch, just sitting down a couple minutes. And Im a SAHM... I dont have dead lines nor do I have to leave my house at a certain time, yet Im totally beat! So I can only imagine how you feel and how you do it. Give yourself some slack. Do your best, but make sure you are getting what you need (like sleep) The first trimester is the worst as far as fatigue (with the exception of the last 3 weeks of preg) in my opinion. If you can get through these next 5 weeks or so, I think you your energy will bounce back. Good luck and hang in there!!!!!

EllaKittson November 4th, 2013 04:05 PM

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I totally get it too. Do the best you can. Thats all you can do. It will get better. *hugs* stay strong!

2bigboys November 4th, 2013 04:42 PM

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I get it. I used to teach when I was pregnant ten years ago. I can't imagine now. Some days I can hardly do anything and I work from home on my couch. Hang in there.

yenken05 November 4th, 2013 06:11 PM

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I'm too exhausted to write a reply but I'm a 2nd grade teacher....and.i.totally.understand! Ugh!

Justjessie November 4th, 2013 07:06 PM

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You know I totally get it, lady =)

I keep telling myself that only a few more weeks...conferences are this week and next week and m/s may be gone by the time they are over and then it's THANSKGIVING and we all pig out.

Here's wimpiness for you...today I had records day and we are allowed to work from home. I sent the kids off to school and Jess off to daycare. I wrote report cards for 4 hours and ran to the bathroom in between to be sick.

Then I ate a grilled cheese sandwich and took a 4 hour nap.

Picked up kids and did running around...

Came home and whined I was tired and puked some more.

It's our thing now. This is what we do. People gotta let up and give us some slack.

Lots of teachers in here feeling your pain!!!

mrsdaiwa24 November 4th, 2013 08:11 PM

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Thanks for letting me vent. I'm hoping Miss B will let me get some solid sleep tonight so that I can have a bit more energy tomorrow and can maybe tackle some of the things that need to be done. I wasted a ton of energy today driving my long commute up to school, prepping all of the work for the sub, driving back home, going to the grocery, and then taking B up to the doctor (which lasted for 90 minutes and included such traumas as forcing her to take meds and listening to her scream for me in the xray room because I had to leave). By the time we came back, I was DONE.

How the heck am I going to balance all of this stuff and take care of a preschooler and a newborn?????????? And if history repeats itself, this newborn will have "high expectations" like Betsy did (and fail to tell me what they are!).

AtomicMama November 4th, 2013 08:41 PM

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I'm hoping you have an easy going, super sleeper baby #2 :)

Marissa's Mommy November 4th, 2013 08:53 PM

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Hugs! I hope Betsy gets better quickly and you get your energy back soon. Maybe one weekend she can have some special one on one time with a close friend or relative and you can just spend a day sleeping? Cause you totally deserve to just have a full day stay home do nothing day.

AllyTales November 5th, 2013 06:10 AM

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Aw, I'm so sorry Amy. I can only imagine. I work from home, and I seriously tell DH all the time I'm so glad I do.. because I have no idea how others do it. And I don't even have another kid to take care of. But pregnancy is tiring! And teaching is tiring. Definitely cut yourself slack, though. You're human :) And in the scheme of things, this time frame will be over before you know it. *hugs*

Mel S November 5th, 2013 07:25 AM

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I think you're super woman being able to get as much done as you are!

I don't have any other kids, I have a low-stress job and my hubby has been doing a good portion of the cleaning/cooking and I can still barely make it through the day without a nap or 2. Like all the other ladies said - don't be so hard on yourself, you are doing an amazing thing right now - you have a little baby growing in you. :)

Demetria November 5th, 2013 07:39 AM

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I feel so bad for you! I stay at home and its a bit more easy to be exhausted than it was when I was working! I can fall asleep on the sofa and even though I never get even 5 mins of a nap in before Ava comes running over for attention, its much easier to deal with! I hope it passes soon, maybe this weekend you can get a big nap in on Saturday and Sunday!

mrsdaiwa24 November 5th, 2013 07:50 AM

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Thanks ladies. I was at a meltdown point yesterday. A good night's sleep in my own bed helped immensely. Betsy is home sick again today so I decided to stay home too -- trying to get as much stuff done this morning while I still have a few hours of energy but still trying to force myself to sit every once and a while so I can go as long as possible. (I've already done a load of laundry, loaded the dishwasher, hand washed the two pots that can't go into the dishwasher, forced B to take her medicine, and entertained her as well.) Plus, all three of us are sick now, so that's sapping my energy as well.

I'm going to make some quiet lesson plans for the next couple of days so I can try and get caught up on the grading. I'm hoping that if things go smoothly today, I can grade a few of the papers. The tests are a different story -- I won't even have them in my possession until tomorrow. Usually, students are pretty understanding about why grading takes so long, especially when I tell them that Betsy has been so sick (they adore her, so I know that they'll understand and they'll tell their parents why I'm so behind, so I shouldn't get complaints).

I have a three day weekend coming up (a real one, not a 4 day weekend due to a sick kiddo), so I'm looking forward to that. DH is going fishing with his dad (and I can't ask him not to go as his dad is over 70, lives 6 hours away, and they haven't done this in forever), so I'm going to see if maybe my mom can watch B for a couple of hours so I can grade.

Thanks again for listening to my pity-party rant. And thanks for letting me know that I'm not the only one. That made me feel better.

LOL -- and Amy, I talk to my belly all of the time and remind this baby that it needs to be the super-chill mellow little sibling!

mrsdaiwa24 November 5th, 2013 02:00 PM

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Hooray!!!!!!!!!! I've managed to grade 9 essays so far!!!!!! I picked out the ones of the kids who have parents coming in for conferences on Thursday night, so that will make my conference prep so much easier.

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