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June 19th, 2006, 07:19 PM
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I also think of my losses together. It makes sense to me, though. I think I would compare it to identical twins (while I don't have them, this is the way I percieve having them would be). You have your twins and there is no way to tell them apart at first. So, you mark the bottoms of their feet to tell them apart. Well, after a couple of weeks, I would think that they would develop their own personalities to some extent. Then you wouldn't have to mark them anymore because you would be able to tell them apart (although no one else would be able to). So, I think since I never learned their personalities or anything to differentiate them from anyone else, it is natural to group them together. It also makes it more difficult to grieve for one and not the other, I didn't know one of them better than the other, didn't attach myself to one more than the other, so it would be difficult to grieve for them separately.

I don't know if this makes sense, but that is the way I think about it.

10/31/05 (EDD 5/15/06), 4/17/06 (EDD 11/13/06)
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