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June 19th, 2006, 08:27 PM
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Okay - I don't think we have the option to poll in htis least not yet.

I am curious about what the ladies that plan to be here for support, etc do & don't want to see in here for info, topics, I do think our particular issues vary slightly from simply a single mc...once it starts being seen as a "pattern" other issue comes into play...

Like for you want there to be no talk of TTC???or warning on TTC topics as in pg loss board?

Do you think there is a difference between talking about ttc (such as charting, temping, opks') and talking about it as a basic idea?

Do you think there shouldn't be talk of pg? I mean if one of us were to get pg - should their pg not be really talked about here - or can they talk here about fears, anxieties, etc...


My feelings:
I guess I ask becasue I understand how scary TTC is after multiple losses. It isn't really about blinkies & cheerleaders is about a leap of faith. So I would like to think if someone was having fears & concerns & feeling intimidated about TTC that I could offer some support to them. I don't want to become the new TTC board - not at all - but I do feel (for MYSELF) that I am okay with some talk about it here since it seems so tied into all of the feelings we have about multiple losses.

I also wouldn't have a problem with someone from our group getting pg & tlaking about some of the uneasiness, etc with that. Of course I would maybe have an occassional pang of envy (but not in a bad way) simply becasue we'd all rather be pg than be here...and rather the first pg was successful. But since we are here - would it be okay with you if someone were to tlak abotu their difficult feelings assocaited with being pg again & what all that might mean?

Do you think that if you don't want either of those to ever be a topic - that maybe a subforum for those topics? The reason I ask is this....
I felt lost a bit on JM my last pg. It wasn't planned, but it was there none-the-less. I had fears & worries abotu the pg - but mostly the ladies in pg after loss - had only had 1 loss, many of them also had when I would talk about fears, everyone was so trying to be so positive & sweet & loving - that at times I wasn't completely sure I was I just needed to know my feelings were okay & normal & that I was strong enough to handle whatever happened - and to maybe even discuss the possiblity of what if it happens again, etc. I don't know if that makes sense... But anyway - I can understand if someone after many losses, has particular struggles with these feelings & I would be okay in trying to offer support to that...since I do know how that feels. I just want to know what others think....

And just so you know - if you want NO ttc/pg talk - I have been there too - so I COMPLETELY understand. I guess I am just trying to wrap my brain around what we all are hoping to gain from the board & what we all hope to be able to communicate about here.

Maybe I don't even totally know yet what I wanted to get from this board. I just know that I have a lot of feelings tied into going through this over & again & I wanted a place to be able to express it all & hope to hear I am not crazy from those that are right there too.
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