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June 25th, 2006, 01:22 AM
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The naming thing is interesting. I haven't been able to bring myself to do it, and I don't really know why. I think it might be because even if I named them, I don't think I could get anyone else to ever use the names (not even DH), and it would be one more thing to feel alone about, that no one but me is acknowledging that my babies had names.
I guess a theme here for me is that I'm really still finding stuff out as I go along (aren't we all). My second loss is so recent, that I'm sure things will seem different farther down the road.[/b]
I didn't name any of my babies until my most recent loss. I don't know why - I didn't feel comfortable with it until then I guess. I know that no one including DH remembers the names I chose - and that is okay with me now. I know them at least & it made me feel like I was fullly acknowledging their existance finally in allowing myself to do that - if that makes sense. I chose: for the twins - Elaina Elise (Bright one/Consecrated to God) and Elijah Ezekial (The Lord is my God/God make me stronger), for the next baby - Hannah Isabella (Grace of God/Consecrated to God) and for the last baby (Anthony Francis (Priceless/Free).

Only do what makes you feel good & comfortable & helps you to heal. I just want you to know that whatever you is up to you & just because you haven't chose a name yet, doesn't mean you won't ever...and just because others have, doesn't mean you should.

On a separate note, I just wanted to add that I think you have shown amazing courage & insight - especially being that your second loss IS so recent. It takes a lot of time to digest it all & you are definitely an amazingly strong & heartfelt woman. I am often impressed by the insight you share. After my 2nd loss I could barely handle even coming to the board, let alone being able to reach out & share the way you do. It leaves me awe often of you & of several of the other ladies here. (((hugs)))
B - Crazy momma to my two boys
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