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July 18th, 2006, 09:44 PM
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I wanted to come back to this earlier but I have been busy all day…..

Sex is risky behavior and I don't think that giving kids "education" and then supplying them with birth control is a good idea. What about other risky behaviors? What about alchohol and drugs? If my kids came to me and asked me to buy them beer or weed, should I, because they're going to do it anyway if I don't? I would want to keep the lines of communication open and not want them to shut me out, wouldn't I? What if they came to me and wanted to shoplift? Should I give them a big roomy purse and advice on where the store cameras are? I wouldn't want them to think I'm unsupportive of their choices, would I? What if they wanted to kill themself? Should I say, well, ok, you know what's best for you, you are a teenager and know everything after all--here's some pills to make it easy for you. Where does a parent draw the line?[/b]
Sorry but none of the above makes any sense to me. Sex is a perfectly natural thing unlike smoking dope or shooting themselves in the head. And statistically that mindset is not doing much for America’s youth. We have the highest rate of pregnancy and abortion in the developed world.

Scroll half way down this link and you will see the chart of developed countries and the rate at which their teens are having sex and the rate at which they are getting pregnant. The United States pregnancy statistics looks pretty grim, even though all of the countries are neck and neck at the rate they are having sex.

This is the actual study that those quick facts came from.

Some of my favorite quotes.

Comprehensive sexuality education,
not abstinence promotion, is emphasized
in countries with lower teenage pregnancy
In Sweden, France, Great
Britain and, usually, Canada, the focus
of sexuality education is not abstinence
promotion but the provision of comprehensive
information about prevention
of HIV and other STDs; pregnancy prevention;
contraceptives and, often,
where to get them; and respect and
responsibility within relationships.

•Media is used less in the United
States than elsewhere to promote positive
sexual behavior. Young people in all five
countries are exposed through television
programs, movies, music and advertisements
to sexually explicit images and to
casual sexual encounters with no consideration
for preventing pregnancy or
STDs. However, entertainment media
and advertising messages about sexuality
are seemingly less influential in the
other countries than in the United
States, because they are balanced by
more pragmatic parental and societal
attitudes and by nearly universal comprehensive
sexuality education.
Pregnancy and STD prevention campaigns
undertaken in the United States
generally have a punitive tone and focus
on the negative aspects of teenage childbearing
and STDs rather than on promotion
of effective contraceptive use.

While adults in the other study
countries focus chiefly on the quality of
young people’s relationships and the
exercise of personal responsibility
within those relationships, adults in
the United States are often more concerned
about whether young people are
having sex. Close relationships are
often viewed as worrisome because
they may lead to intercourse,
and contraception
may not be discussed for
fear that such a discussion might lead
to sexual activity. These generalities
across countries are borne out in the
behavior of young people. As was noted
earlier, teenagers in the United States
who have had sex appear more likely
than their peers in the other countries
to have short-term and sporadic relationships,
and they are more likely to
have many sexual partners during
their teenage years.[/b]
Excellent study if anyone gets the chance to read it!! Both links are very interesting.

I just wonder why everyone thinks that good parenting is now "Don't forget your 'protection' dear," instead of trying to teach something that IS 100% effective. I want my children to have the best, so that's why I plan to stress abstinence. Believe it or not, some teenagers do abstain until they are 18 or older, and I hope my children will.[/b]
I think good parenting is setting your kids up with the things they will need for life. Life happen whether you want it to or not, and children do not listen to their parents 100% of the time.
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