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April 28th, 2011, 11:25 AM
*Manda* *Manda* is offline
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Hey ladies...I'm new to this whole losing somebody thing. I've been very lucky to never have to deal with that before...but yet here I am.

My father in law was diagnosed last November with Non Hodgkins Lymphoma. It was said to be very treatable and we went on to treat it. They did a pet scan a few weeks ago and it was almost gone. We were so excited. 3 weeks ago he went into the hospital feeling weak and slightly confused. They gave him a blood transfusion and lots of rest and he was doing amazing. We were so curious why they weren't discharging him...3 days later he started sleeping a lot and wasn't really talking to us as much. He was acting really drugged up like. Once the nurses informed us he wasn't on strong pain medicine the doctor ordered an MRI and even he thought it was silly but that he'd do it anyways. Turns out it wasn't silly. He had "lesions" on his brain. We had to wait 10 days for his blood thinners to get out of his system before they could biopsy it. This past tuesday they did the biopsy. Immediate results showed it was cancer and that it is lymphoma. The lymphoma in the brain doesn't respond the same way to chemo and where most patients start out with 1 mass he started out with multiple. The oncologist said to treat it was only to extend his life up to 1-2 years and that he probably would not come out of the state that he is in now. Essentially we'd be making him miserable with extremely high doses of chemotherapy only for him to still not get better. The cancer itself is not curable. My FIL is a very religious man and he is fine with the idea of going home and has been for years. He never wanted to be stuck to a bed with a poor quality of life. This morning we officially talked to the doctors and will not be pursuing any treatments. The main goal now is to make him comfortable.

I am struggling. We weren't extremely close but our bond was growing and he is such an amazing man. I knew he would make a wonderful grandfather to my future children but because of my PCOS after 1.5 years of trying we are still babyless and not pregnant. I wanted to make him a grandpa SO badly. He wanted to be a grandpa just as bad. I regret not putting forth more effort in our 3 short years together to be closer to him and I wish I could just go back and get 1 more day to really talk to him.

Needless to say, I'm a complete mess...

TTC #1 for five years
Battling PCOS and Male Factor Infertility

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