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November 27th, 2011, 04:42 PM
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I'm so sorry for your loss hun.
I always say I have 5 children. Some people don't ask any further (although the odd eyebrow does get raised) others might ask their ages, I always reply with my first daughter was stillborn and I have a.....then list their ages. After 17 years I can say it and not take anyone into that 'dark place' as I can turn the conversation in a direction that takes any 'discomfort' away from the person.
In the beginning it was hard, especially as Ceilidh was my first child, so people got taken to that 'dark place' as I felt so raw.
Sadly stillbirth is one of those taboo things, people know it happens but refuse to think about it. People don't know how to 'handle' us, how do they act around us, what do they say, what can they do? They don't know the answer and so avoid it altogether.
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