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July 2nd, 2012, 06:07 AM
hope71012 hope71012 is offline
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How many times do I need to remind my mom that her "job" during labor is to take care of DD, not assist me or hang out in birth room unless DD is there.

I really don't think its not difficult! She keeps discounting DD wanting to be involved. She's 6. She's old enough to give us her thoughts and feelings. Not only that, but why. I respect that. DH respects that. My mom keeps saying, "oh you can watch your movie with your uncle while I'm helping mommy and daddy." Grrrr! NO! Its really pissing me off! I only want my hubby supporting me during L&D.

THEN, we are delivering at the birth center. END OF ******* STORY! I'm not delivering at a ****** hospital. She's irked. She doesn't think they monitor you enough post-baby (6-12 hours depending on the time the baby is born). She has an opinion about using the birth pool. She's shocked they asked me to buy a "birth kit" with a pool liner. Oh, its non of it is sterile enough for her. Really?! Oh and they use a cord ring instead of a clamp so its not right! The worst part is that she keeps saying, "hospital" instead of "birth center" when I specifically correct her she ignores it.

She still thinks she's catching the baby. NO! If anyone catches the baby besides the midwife, it will be me or my husband (IE: if we are in the water).

I will NOT be induced, checked, etc unless my midwife suggests doing so for valid medical reason. She's insistant that I just take some castor oil and go into labor NOW. ***? NO! I haven't even taken the evening primrose oil suggested by the midwife yet. I'm not even overdue! I'm not opposed to castor oil, but wont consider it until I'm overdue! I've also said from DAY FREAKING ONE that baby will come when ready. 42 weeks is 8/1 and I will not set foot in a hospital to be hooked up to pitocin and bedridden until that date unless the baby is in danger. Being in danger has to be proven through NST, u/s, etc.

At this point I just feel like my birth plan is falling apart. I need to talk to DH and type it all out so that he knows how to advocate for me also. Because ya labor its hard to do. I just feel like at this point we will have to just kick everyone out including DD. I hate it. Why can't she just be the mom to shut her dang mouth. Stop talking about the ****** doctor appt on 8/3 and wanting to spend time with the baby.

At this point, I'm just thanking GOD that I've changed practices to a very natural birth friendly environment and I know that they will help stick to the plan, etc.
Mommy to H (6) and E (brand new)
4 Angels gone too soon

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