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July 9th, 2012, 10:11 AM
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Originally Posted by Jule'sMomInOR
I got the book from the library and started it today. On the bottom of page 38 and 39 he says that the concern is not too much praise or empty praise, and that making your praise more rare and discriminative can actually make the problem worse because kids have to do more to earn our approval. *Sigh*
I wouldn't read too much into that. I think it is more important to just constantly radiate approval rather than using it as a coercion tool to control their behavior. Praise is a verbal shorthand for indicating approval but I think your tone, manner, gaze, etc is more important especially for little kids. I think in the beginning of the book he is a little more extreme in his statements because he is trying to get the reader's attention and snap them out of their accustomed way of thinking.

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