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July 9th, 2012, 07:07 PM
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Originally Posted by missadie222 View Post
Wow. I began reading this and thought...."hmmmm? I wonder what all this writing is about... I wonder if this story is good....?" GEEZ I AM GLAD I CONTINUED READING. Seriously, Maury worthy. And you are LIVING it!! Craziness!

I have an instinct that some male instincts are going on here. After being with your ex for two years and NOT getting pregnant, I'd be pretty suspicious that this other man is the father of your baby. Instinctually, they may know the same. I mean, your blood is mingling with baby's blood and maybe pheromones are part of this father instinct? I hope that the hormones calm down for you and the situation lightens (when will your ex be totally out of the picture?)..... And then you may realize that this miracle baby is here for the most amazing reason. To prove miracles exist, chemistry between people is real ( and for a good reason), and you are gonna have a human being on your hands that is MOST DEFINITELY on planet earth for a good reason.

I would get as far away from the negative energy as possible (the ex) and be magnetic to the positive and cheerful energy. When can you get a paternity test? I think they can do one for 100$ if you send away online? Are you ready for that?

Also, after years of being sure you could never get pregnant I think you are so brave and graceful to handle it this way! To keep your miracle baby! To forge ahead despite the confusion and disbelief. I believe by the time this baby comes you will have fallen completely in love with it.

Best to you! I can't wait to hear how this situation unfolds.
The ex now refuses to leave. I believe it's to be an actual physical wedge between me and the other man. He also no longer has a room at his parents to go to, as his sister and niece needed to move in urgently.

The other man (Ok Let's call him TOM instead of the other man...makes me feel crappy to call him that) however, has been in the process of buying a home for a bit. He would like me to be involved in the house hunting, and would like me to move in once he finds a house.

This is where I should add that the ex has been unemployed for a year and a half, and Ive paid rent and other bills for that time. (Big part of the reason he was on his way out the door.)

TOM, however, is a teacher, maintains his own place, and has dreams to do things, ya know, other than hold the couch down.

See why I was happy to move on with TOM? I though things were finally rolling into place...

We do want a paternity test, I'd love one now, but I cant justify the amnio. With a 1 in 300 miscarriage rate, I will NOT risk it. I waited my entire life for this baby, and I'm not risking it for anything or anyone. So once the baby comes, we will do the paternity test.

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