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September 28th, 2012, 03:46 PM
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Yes, I guess there is misconception on the definition.
Putting Tim first means I will NOT put my marriage on pause for 18 years. We will, within reason, treat each other & do the things for each other that we did before kids. Yes, some things change, but everything won't. Some people think they can hit the pause button on marriage & pick up when the kids are gone. I would consider that neglect if that's what Tim planned for us.
We still date. Maybe not as often, but we do things we did before marriage. We had started slipping into the cycle of doing the same old same old since it was easy, but we caught that & have put things in place to start adding variety to our dates like we used to. We eat the way we did before, sleep together like before, talk to each other etc. Our kids know all activities are out on hold when I'm helping daddy get off to work, & my family & friends know not to call me when my husband is home.
I am his wife and partner. Not just his kids' mommy.

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